Hi there! My mum is 84 has dementia (diagnosed in 2015). She has been living with me and my partner and son since early 2016 when my dad passed away. She was really good for a long time and we made sure she ate well and did exercise. It seemed to keep things at bay.
However, the last year or so things have become very difficult. She has become obsessed with toilet tissue and eating anything she can get her hands on. She often makes herself ill by eating food that hasn't been prepared properly, or mush from the recycling bin. We now have locks on the fridge, freezer and cupboards, and she has her own small fridge where we keep safe things in sensible amounts for her. The recycling bin is now kept outside.
Her hygiene has become really bad. It is quite shocking. Sometimes she uses hand towels instead of toilet tissue, so that she can save the tissue. Today I noticed that both the socks she was wearing were covered in poo! It is horrifying.
I phoned social services before Christmas because I need help to keep her safe. We all work so it has been such a juggle. We are waiting for a case worker to be allocated to assess her.
My mum used to be so brilliant and amazing. I now spend so much time trying to teach her everything that she tought me. My partner and son try to help, but as soon as we solve one problem, another pops up.
She is so sweet and we love her so much. But she is getting so fed up of being constantly pulled up on basic things (asking her to wash her hands, wear cleans clothes, not use socks or towels to wipe her bum!) that she sometimes snaps and it is hard to manage.
I have a sister but she doesn't want to help. I'm not sure why I am writing all but this but my partner and I are tired of talking about it, my son tries not to get involved because he finds it so sad that his nana is like this now, and it isn't the nicest topic of conversation for my friends and work colleagues!
I absolutely take my hat off to anyone living with dementia. I actually have had some great tips from members here before just from googling things like dementia and toilet paper. I actually bought the individual boxes of tissue paper rather than rolls, which has really helped with the tissue hoarding!
Anyway, thanks to anyone that actually got to the end of this. It was long! Sorry!!