he did start ordering and demanding when he got up but after i told him what the problem was, he stopped and asked later if hed been alright today so it appears that he is aware of what he is doing. hes even looking at ways to help me out carrying things.these days are rare but no less appreciated. hes acquired another blood test tomorrow so i will have a bit of time off so im reading my book. time off is precious. ive managed to twist my back doing some housework this morning. at least its cooler and i will persevere with the relaxation exercises that @MaNaAk reminded me about.