Hello
I’m new to the forum and am looking for ideas about how to calm my mum down and distract her. She has advanced dementia and has mostly lost all concept of who we all are. She calls my dad her dad and thinks I’m a cousin, friend, work colleague.
She gets very distressed and sundowns every day where we have to deal with her trying to leave and arguing with us all. Slamming doors and not recognising anyone.
Medically, her doctor believes she is on the limit of what she can be on. I am therefore looking for ideas and ways to distract and calm her down.
Any messages of support and ideas are gratefully received.
Hx
We leafed through photo albums,
A lifetime all packed neatly into books. Trying to stir some memories.
Holidays, weddings, christmases, communion, playing in the snow, grandparents, fun times.
Happy times.
“Who is that?”she said as she looked at my younger self. “I recognise the face but I can’t place it.” A photo of me as a child, a teenager, a young adult.
We tried all ages.
She couldn’t place me. “It’s our Helen”, Dad said. “Ah is that our Hel.” Then she looks up and smiles and says “it’s our Hel.”
I say “I know mum. So who am I?” She said “are you my niece?”
No mum-I’m your Hel.
Helped her to bed. Undressed her like a child and found her pyjamas. “Ah you’re a good girl”, she says. “Goodnight God bless.”
Love you Mum x
I’m new to the forum and am looking for ideas about how to calm my mum down and distract her. She has advanced dementia and has mostly lost all concept of who we all are. She calls my dad her dad and thinks I’m a cousin, friend, work colleague.
She gets very distressed and sundowns every day where we have to deal with her trying to leave and arguing with us all. Slamming doors and not recognising anyone.
Medically, her doctor believes she is on the limit of what she can be on. I am therefore looking for ideas and ways to distract and calm her down.
Any messages of support and ideas are gratefully received.
Hx
We leafed through photo albums,
A lifetime all packed neatly into books. Trying to stir some memories.
Holidays, weddings, christmases, communion, playing in the snow, grandparents, fun times.
Happy times.
“Who is that?”she said as she looked at my younger self. “I recognise the face but I can’t place it.” A photo of me as a child, a teenager, a young adult.
We tried all ages.
She couldn’t place me. “It’s our Helen”, Dad said. “Ah is that our Hel.” Then she looks up and smiles and says “it’s our Hel.”
I say “I know mum. So who am I?” She said “are you my niece?”
No mum-I’m your Hel.
Helped her to bed. Undressed her like a child and found her pyjamas. “Ah you’re a good girl”, she says. “Goodnight God bless.”
Love you Mum x