Wee update on my journey with OH with early onset Alzheimer's.
My husband has now been in Care Home 10 weeks. Is settling in well.
MIL who was diagnosed with stage 4 stomach cancer last April wasn't meant to see Xmas. She has had two stays in hospital in April for over a week each time. Heart failure and fluid on the lungs 6th April didn't think see would survive. Anyway cut long story short not eating or drinking under 5 stone in weight. Admitted to Marie Currie hospice on 22nd May for rest and medication assessment. Various tests and scans done. Now they are saying no cancer in lungs etc only small cancer in stomach. She is now eating and back home locks so much better. Multi discipline meeting took place last Wednesday she has appointment tomorrow to discuss what happens next.
I had decided not to tell OH about his mums illness last year and not to tell mum he was now in Care, I take him to see her once a week as usual.
My sister in law decided on Monday to tell their mum that he is now in Care without consulting me. She has taken this well. We visited yesterday, husband was very restless, his condition has deteriorated rapidly. I was worried she would give me a hard time, however she asked if he was getting looked after. She looked upset when he didn't want to stay and was very confused and talking nonsense.
Husband has not been eating the last 2 weeks and has lost a lot of weight, looks so frail for 62 year old.
When I took him back to home I stayed and helped him eat some dinner. During my stay he became restless walking about. Another resident hit him with his zimmer. Voices became raised and my husband was really upset with this, he was close to tears and was saying sorry to me and the carers. My heart was breaking so upset that I have left him there, wanted to hit the guy, although I do know they are all in the same position.
Anyway about 10 minutes later this resident came into the sitting room and continued to make faces. My husband got up to wander and he hit him again with the zimmer as he walked past him.. I shouted for him to stop it, the carers also witnessed it this time and told him off.
This has set me back to thinking I have done the wrong thing put him in Care.
I am not sleeping well and feel so low. Can this get any worse?
Rose x