After I left my Mum at the care home for the first time fully residential, I cried for about 24 hours on and off. It is an awful situation. We were advised to leave her for a few days, which we did and when I visited she was happily gardening with other residents. I was still an emotional wreck. Things get easier over time and my Mum has settled, though sadly the disease also progresses. Everyone is different in terms of the decisions they make and what they are able to do. Do not feel guilty about your choices. Dementia is terrible and nothing prepares you or your family for it. Although it is very hard at first making the move to residential care, I think you have to stick with it for a bit to see how it goes.