@kindredB, it's me, Kindred, back on line for a little while. This post of yours is so telling that your husband is within reach of his old self. I used to feel my husband's old self had gone, to be replaced by Mr Angry all the time, day and night. Then he had the accident that landed him in A and E and eventually in his current nursing home. But the strange thing is that when I visited him in hospital for the first time, his old self, although demented, was back and his first words to me were; how have you been so wonderfully kind to me all these years.
And he continued in this way until now, when he can no longer really communicate meaningfully but gives me such loving looks. I cannot account for this. Unless he was reflecting my own anger and tension when we were still together, or the accident somehow jerked the brain. It is a strange thing to happen when I too, thought that side had gone forever.
I am longing to share your lilttle pusscat adventures with you!
with love and best, Geraldinexxxx
Dear Geraldine, so so lovely to hear from you. You always make me feel better. You are such a special person, thank you x
I will never understand what is happening to my husband, to me, to us.
It’s designed to make us Carers feel as if we are the confused ones. It’s like floundering in the dark all the time. I will never understand, but perhaps that is because I don’t want to?
I can’t wait to get our little cat. She is white, one blue eye, one green eye and profoundly deaf. She isn’t yet 12 months old, so has just been neutered. I have a large list of things to buy for her, to keep her occupied. We see her on Saturday, then pick her up after The vet has checked her wound. I haven’t looked forward to anything for so long....
Take care Geraldine, thank you for always being there for me.
I hope your gorgeous blue eyed boy, Keith, is doing well after his seizure. And I hope you and your hip are getting stronger, more comfortable, and much less pain and discomfort.
With much love to you, B xx