As it's persistent that's a decision for the GP/continence nurse, maybe also chat with dietician.If it’s not overflow diarrhoea could she not be given something to make her stools ‘firmer’?
Absolutely resistant, vehemently so and weekly companion contract has just been cancelled as her attendance although pleasurable and enjoyed at the time has become a negative fixation, so frustrating.This is awful for you @Agzy.
Is Pauline still so resistant to help in the home? If you could have someone in the morning and evening it would surely take some of the strain off you.
I suspect the only way of getting her into any kind of care will be via this routeI wouldn’t wish for you to have to go in to hospital but if it means you get some respite it could be a blessing in a way
Thank you @canary and yes, she is worse since her fall and trip to A&E and, while my breathing/lung issues do make somethings hard we at least know what it is and will hopefully know quite soon what is to be done.Agzy, Im really, really worried about you
Pauline seems to have got a lot worse recently and you are far from well.
We read so often on here about people who look after their spouses with dementia single handed who then pass away. I dont want to sound melodramatic, but carers are 30% more likely to die than non-carers and I dont want it to happen o you.
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Thank you and I too wish there was an easy solution especially as, for 75% of the day, she is lovely and just need company and someone to navigate the various TV apps and outlets for her favourite films and series. We are not married and my family are very supportive of me but I will not permit them to do hands on care as, if anything happened to me they would inherit her care rather than it being the responsibility of her sons as it should. All life is a quandary but a dementia carers more so it seems.We all worry so much about you @Agzy - I do wish there was some sort of solution to help you in the mornings particularly.
If you were a paid carer you would be signed off sick by now. How would Pauline react to help if she was told you couldn’t do it?
I know the accidents happen not at set times but is there a window of an hour or two when they do happen When help might be at the best timing? …….regardless of whether Pauline would accept it or not!
Are your children helping you - even if emotionally and helping with ur hospital appointments etc?
Hoping for some joy this Saturday for you…
I have a wrist worn BP monitor but GP says oxygen levels are ok in spite of the diaphragm in my right lung being stuck in the raised position and so limiting air intake. Most recent video scan (?) shows the diaphragm as ‘fluttering’ but once that know why they can either medicate or operate and hopefully give relief.Another one who is concerned about you and Pauline.
Have you considered using a pulse oximeter to see if your breathing difficulties are affecting the oxygen level in your blood?
There's a wide choice, the one I have is currently on offer.
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It's an old model only showing oxygen level, pulse, and pulse regularity by a dot that bounces up and down, new models show waveforms.
Has been up to now but Catherine Cookson 3 hour previously seen umpteen times saga is a chore every Sunday 😞Wow Agzy , new tv programmes, that’s wonderful, the same old ones gets SO boring. Hope today is as good.
It`s wonderful to hear this at this stage @Agzy. All credit to youDidn’t go out the front door at all and yet we were really happy together and at peace with the world.
i find catherine cookson hard to watch even though ive read lots of her books, i cant watch as confusing. hats off to you for sticking with it.Has been up to now but Catherine Cookson 3 hour previously seen umpteen times saga is a chore every Sunday 😞