Hi everyone first time poster here. I really need some advice on my dad who is 82. To give a limited background my mum who is in her 70s and has physical issues, I'm mid 40s and live with them due to being classed as partially disabled myself. Also 2 siblings who live various distances away and are not able to often help or visit.
Ok 5 years roughly ago my dad had started to have some memory issues the kind of things that you would expect from age related issues. The last couple of years however it's become worrying that the issues appear more complex and and are getting more alarming. To put it briefly his memory has got to the point where he often cannot remember things you say to him from several moments ago. He frequently leaves doors open we have cats and he forbids them from the kitchen etc. He is getting more and more irrational like for example forbidding the bathroom door to be open and gets incredibly angry when people forget things or try and explain things about it calmly or logically. He cannot see anyone's other than his own point of view when asked about his decisions or his reasoning for them. Often the make no logical sense at all, even when you gently ask or try to reason with him he will stomp off in a rage and then start saying things that if anything happens i'll never forgive you etc. You can see the anger in him uncontrolled at times. He will often not speak to people or blank them. Even over the smallest of things he will loose his temper often at me or my mum. Yesterday it got to the point where he was even threating to walk out even though he has nowhere to go and has limited mobility with his balance. He has got to the point of treating my mum like one of me and my siblings. To say this is upsetting is an understatement. He also refuses any help and gets very upset or angry about people as he says pushing him into anything like getting help for his other physical issues. Kind of like Jekyll and Hyde it's like a switch inside him. I really feel like we are loosing the person that he was, it's really hard dealing with this and the emotional effects its having on both him and my mum who loves him deeply.
I came on here as things have got to the point where as a family we don't know what to do or think about this situation anymore. From what I have put would people say he has possible dementia or something else. Also what can we do possibly about him refusing any help.
Ok 5 years roughly ago my dad had started to have some memory issues the kind of things that you would expect from age related issues. The last couple of years however it's become worrying that the issues appear more complex and and are getting more alarming. To put it briefly his memory has got to the point where he often cannot remember things you say to him from several moments ago. He frequently leaves doors open we have cats and he forbids them from the kitchen etc. He is getting more and more irrational like for example forbidding the bathroom door to be open and gets incredibly angry when people forget things or try and explain things about it calmly or logically. He cannot see anyone's other than his own point of view when asked about his decisions or his reasoning for them. Often the make no logical sense at all, even when you gently ask or try to reason with him he will stomp off in a rage and then start saying things that if anything happens i'll never forgive you etc. You can see the anger in him uncontrolled at times. He will often not speak to people or blank them. Even over the smallest of things he will loose his temper often at me or my mum. Yesterday it got to the point where he was even threating to walk out even though he has nowhere to go and has limited mobility with his balance. He has got to the point of treating my mum like one of me and my siblings. To say this is upsetting is an understatement. He also refuses any help and gets very upset or angry about people as he says pushing him into anything like getting help for his other physical issues. Kind of like Jekyll and Hyde it's like a switch inside him. I really feel like we are loosing the person that he was, it's really hard dealing with this and the emotional effects its having on both him and my mum who loves him deeply.
I came on here as things have got to the point where as a family we don't know what to do or think about this situation anymore. From what I have put would people say he has possible dementia or something else. Also what can we do possibly about him refusing any help.