The Invisibles' story
Hello Sunny,
I have spoken with some of the "Invisibles" in trying to understand why they abstain...
One of the responses I got: "For some unknown reason a visit might even upset her [the Alzheimer sufferer], there is a mysterious (not known to us) antipathy towards X, who is a very guileless person but seems to present an abrasive character. ... that sort of thing existing in all families, quite arbitrary and with no one to blame."
and yet.. this "Invisible" person and I communicate via his wife (by internet to the USA) as he does not type. Yet again, he does not communicate by voice but uses his wife as a "go-between"...
Another one of my "Invisibles" has bickered with her sister most of her life and now, at the eleventh hour, is mortified, humbled and feels cast aside, that repairing a life of strife is too little too late.
I always remember Princess Michael of Kent's reaction to the Harrods' bombing: along the lines of - it doesn't feel real when it happens somewhere else, but when it is in your back door, it hits you and then it is a different matter.
Some people just simply have never loved and lost and thereby don't understand real joy and pain.
They have probably never been brought up with
John Wesley (1703-1791):
“Do all the good you can,
By all the means you can,
In all the ways you can,
In all the places you can,
At all the times you can,
To all the people you can,
As long as ever you can.”
You for sure are not an Invisible
Martina