I am writing this because so often in families, one person is unofficially designated as the CARER, the others dont seem to see themselves as the carer and the burden does seem to fall on one person. It would be much better if caring was shared but I know it isnt and I know from a lot of people on here that is not the case too. So what can be done to force ALL the siblings in a family to participate in the care. How can this be formalised. Any ideas?