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@Woo2 @Sarasa xx Fingers crossed this not something else to worry about. Hubby took mum BP at home on wednesday night and it was sky high in the red zone . I took it thursday a bit after lunch and it was loads lower and in amber range and then took it again yesterday at same sort of time as thursday and it was in green range. I don't know if mums mood and confusion has effect on it as on wednesday she was quite mixed up but when I took it thursday and yesterday she was relaxed and more with it.
Yesterday mum was more with it than usual most of day and didn't call last night so it was a good day although I was still on edge all night wondering if ok.
She is a puzzle with recognising she has dementia, sometimes she sees or hears something about it and says she has that, others she doesn't react at all and at other times if me or someone says she has it she gets uptight and says she hasn't. She has told me a time or two when seen something to do with it, Everybody says I have that but the DR told me I hadn't. I have no idea where that comes from.
I think SS will try to keep mum at home and suggest carers and maybe use respite so we'll have to see. Sis did say physically she can get washed and dressed but she doesn't know when or if she has done them. On the form sis put
My sister spends the majority of the day with her to ensure she has her medication and meals, prompts her to shower, wash her hair and change her clothes as mum is no longer able to recognise when these things need to be done (as opposed to choosing not to do them).
Mum is also unable to cook for herself, understand hygiene, or recognise if she has or has not done any housework.
Sis purposely put the as 'opposed to choosing not to do them' as last time when I told SW mum didn't shower everyday or remember when to wash her hair SW said something like if mum chooses not to go in shower one day thats her choice we all have days where we don't bother as much. It really annoyed me as it wasn't a choice, she forgets, if you ask mum she will say she goes in shower everyday and washes hair twice a week and is always cleaning. So sis thought she'd make the point why it happened bless her she said I thought you'd appreciate that bit lol
We'll have to try our best to get the best for mum, which now seems like that is a home with 24 hr care, it's not what mum or any of us wants really, but I think as mum has been recently it's what she needs. If things improved in mum feeling safe on her own and could get by with more help at home then fair enough but most days lately that hasn't been the case and she needs constant support.