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@Bikerbeth x Mum often panics about money, if pension going in bank, are bills paid, does she owe you something because she can't remember and now she gets hubby and friends hubby mixed up she oftens thinks she gave other one her card when she was with them and needs to get it back to give this one so he can get her some money. But the idea of her being at a party with her brother and giving someone her card to get some money out is new.
She hasn't been to a party with my uncle in a lot of years and never with my dad as said yesterday and I'm sure she's never given anyone her card and forgot to get it back because in the whole history of her having a bank card she has never known her pin and we've always drawn money out for her. She tried to use machine a few times with us there telling her what to do but didn't like it and would just get us or my sister to do it. I did wonder if because she'd rung her brother the other day to ask about her mum dying if it had brought him forward in her memory and she'd dreaned this party. It could be she's seen something on tv though as she does mix things from tv up with real life so maybe she had seen a party with a bank card story on tv.
Its sad but there is always something mum is panicking about, where she lives, her furniture, her important papers, if she has paid rent, has she got life insurance, does she get her pension, has she seen our Andie, all sorts of stuff she can't remember properly that seem to take it in turns to come to fore.
The last few weeks when I get there on a morning, most days she has had a pad out with questions written on like did I see Andrea and hubby yesterday, whose house did I go to on Saturday, did I pay for shopping, did I give hubby/friends hubby bank card, is this ..., (her address), is ..(dad) dead, how long since my mum died. They're things she worried about night before and wrote down to check with me next day. Its sad to see these things wrote down but a few weeks ago she'd been telling me about forgetting things and that on a night she thinks of jobs or things she wants to do but forgets them by morning. Also at night she sometimes can't remember things like where things are, what she's done and worries about them and cant sleep so I said I have a pad that i write things down on before I go to sleep that I want to remember to do tomorrow and i know they're wrote down so I don't have to worry bout them or try to remember them because I'll see it in morning so it helps get it off my mind so I can sleep and I suggested she do same. So I think that's what she's been doing with pad if she's worrying about things at night she's wrote it down to ask next day.
The virus was all over news yesterday and we did end up talking about it a couple of times including with carer and I think she had news on when she rang me second time yesterday. Its hard to avoid it as its on loads each day and all anyone is talking about so I think now mums getting more aware of it she'll be worrying about it now. Hoping today I can distract her from it a bit to let me stay with her without too much upset X