Hi @annielou, I'm not surprised you are finding it tough, I hope you can soon get some additional support for Mum to help you both. Always do what works for you and Mum - you know Mum better than anyone else. Stay strong - all the best. .I'm finding it quite hard and worrying but I'll keep on trying and hoping for she'll be ok
Hi, I have been following your post in the background and I really feel for your situation and I wanted to say you are doing a fantastic job caring for your mum, I know how not easy it is.Thanks @Woohoo @Pete1 @Sarasa xxx
Mum didn't ring anymore last night so I stayed at home.
I did cancel the dementia charity carer support worker visit today as I really didn't want to unsettle mum with anymore visits than had to this week. We still have to go to docs for blood test on friday and I think mum was unsettled after memory worker visit yesterday and friday will probably do same with her a bit too.
It was good of sis to arrange the visit thinking it would help, but I think talking about groups etc they offer again would unnerve mum again as did yesterday, and with mum being there while I would have been talking about her and her symptoms I couldn't really ask for much advice either without probably upsetting mum. I felt today what I gained wouldn't outweigh the possible negative effect on mum and I was quite shattered and stressed after worrying about mum last night too.
Mum had another mixed day today but is still calmer than she was before the tablets. She was still a bit mixed up and worrying about a couple of things, but not as het up as previously, though not as calm as the weekend. She said she was a bit fed up and looked a bit low this afternoon but then she does get like that when she thinks she has been in the house all day even when she has company. She left some of her dinner today and said she didn't want it as not that hungry so I'll have to keep an eye on if she is feeling down and going off eating again but it could just have been what we had that she wasn't as fond of.
I rang mum when I got home tonight and she sounded ok and I told her I'd see her tomorrow and we said night. Then she rang me about 15 minutes later to check if I was home so I told her yes I was home safe and she just said oh good well I'll see you tomorrow night night love. I'm hoping she is ok overnight again. I'm finding it quite hard and worrying but I'll keep on trying and hoping for she'll be ok x
Hi ive read your post about your mum and worried she might start wandering which rungbells with me when i went home again for the 2 nd time I installed cameras amd a door sensor ( careline in my area do one that attaches toThanks @Pete1 @DesperateofDevon @Bikerbeth @Sarasa xxxx
I am struggling to leave her when confused and upset. I know that if I was there she would continue with the loop of questions like we did when I stayed there, but I would know she was safe and if she got really upset I would be there to comfort her, although sometimes she would resist that for quite a while when she thought I was telling her wrong things.
I'm so worried that she will now try to go find Our Andie or 'friends' house or go home to where she thinks her house is now as she is convinced she walks places on her own which is a new and worrying development this past month.
I don't know how long it will be before she won't be left on her own again. I had a feeling the calm of the weekend wouldn't last but hoped it would. She was much less confused about things then too, which I know is not what the sertraline does so didn't think that would really last, but thought it was keeping the worrying about being confused at bay. Either that or she was on best behaviour at weekend after SW visit and chat with me and sis and wasn't able to keep that up for long. Whatever the reason she is back to being confused and getting upset about it more each day.
Social worker called yesterday for a catch up after fridays visit and both sis and I missed her calls. Sis was in a meeting at work and I didn't notice I'd missed the call until almost an hour later when mum took a break from questioning who I was to go to loo and I checked phone and saw voicemail left from earlier. She must have called while I'd been in kitchen earlier flipping a tripped fuse and changing lightbulb. Mum never mentioned my phone ringing or pinging with voicemail message and also one from sis and when I'd come back we'd gone back to who are you etc so I didn't think to check phone.
Anyway sis said she will try ring her back today. I told her to ask SW to put all stuff on care plan she can and we'd try our best to get mum to try them when there as no point waiting for her to agree first. Also told sis to tell her we thought mum was lot calmer and less het up at weekend but the worry is coming back now and though not aggressive at moment she is getting more upset about things each day. So we'll see what she has to say IF sis manages to get hold of her today.
Hoping we manage an ok trip to docs for blood test today too x