Today mum has been more mixed up and worried again, it seems the worry and confusion is coming back more each day after the calm of the weekend.
She said she felt sick and off it when I rang this morning before I went over. She said she'd slept till bout half 5 but then couldnt go back off but laid there till bout half 8 feeling bit sicky before getting up just before I rang her. Yesterday she asked me to remind her to wash her hair so I did this morning while on phone. When I got there just after ten this morning she was dressed and drinking another cup of tea and said she still felt sicky.
She had been in shower but not washed her hair, I thought that was because she didn't feel well but she said no she didn't know why hadn't cos she'd meant to, she said it was hurting a bit cos needed washing and thought it might make her feel bit better so was surprised she hadn't done it.(she'd been meaning to do it for few days as not been washed since last friday)
After we chatted for a bit and she'd had her morning tablets she decided to wash it in sink cos she wanted to go out somewhere and we decided to come over to my house. She didn't think she'd been for ages (even though we came over on tuesday but she couldn't remember that) and we had half an hour of her asking what day it was, and what had we done on what day this week, and had she been to my house lately, and when. On the way to my house (an hour) she asked constantly if locked doors and what had she done with her keys, which is normal for her but she hadn't asked as much on tuesday and was calmer about it then but back to worrying today.
She was ok at my house for a bit but then this afternoon the talk about not seeing our Andrea started and so we had lots of mixed up questions and answers about who I was, she thought I was 'friend' again, another Andrea but not daughter briefly and then another 'friend' with same name as other friend but not that one. We had lots of where Andrea was, thought she had a house in my village, didn't know where lived, not seen her house, didn't know if she had a house but left to go off with boyfriend, lived with mum for years, she'd never been married, lived in mums bungalow with her till recently, she was about 28 or 30 and then i 40s. She couldn't work out ages of people, who lived where and why, and her answers to her own questions got weirder each time. She told me the photo of me and hubby I have on drawers was of me 'friend' and 'friends hubby' but when I described what 'friend and hubby' looked like she agreed and when i said that not us is it we don't look like that do we, she said no but she knew we were them. Then she wanted to know who had been staying with her, someone else had. It wasn't me, it was her other daughter, not me not sis but the other one, then it wasn't her daughter but another lady, and then her grandaughter .
I tried to say even if didn't know who I was I wasn't hurting her and was looking after her, which she agreed with, so why don't we just leave worrying about it for now and just relax a bit and it might come back wto her or we can work it out later. She agreed but then she asked to go home.
Said she was going to walk home because she had walked here, she didn't know way home, thought she lived at house we lived in before I got married which is 2 houses ago for her, thought it took a while to walk but wasn't sure how long but she knew she went up street cos she'd walked up here earlier after I rang her and asked her to come. So then we had that for a while but I managed to convince her to stay for dinner and we'd take her in car later.
She said she didn't really want any dinner as wasn't hungry and felt sick still. I asked her to just try some so could take tablets. I went off to make dinner and she asked Andie if she could help a few times and when I gave her her dinner she ate it which was a relief but then started in with who lived with her again. She did quieten down though and stayed till 8 watching tele.
She didn't say much in car, she's usually pretty quiet in the car so not unusual for her, she commented on some bike riders and odd one or two other thing and seemed ok. When we got in her house a note was pushed through letterbox saying window cleaner been and then few minutes later she went looking for a note in letterbox. I asked what for thinking she was thinking about window cleaner and she said 'to see when funeral was'.
She had gone back to something she gets stuck with a lot, her mum had died and they had to clear house and she didn't know when funeral was and didn't want to miss it. She didn't believe it was a long time ago and house etc was all sorted, she had key to her mums house here look! it was one of her keys, well I know its just happened!. Hubby tried distracting her with something we'd heard on radio in car and she talked bout it for few minutes then started again about her mum. She needed to clear her house, needed let council know, needed pay her rent. We answered all those and thought she was ok again as she commented on something on tv but then she was back to it.
She told us she knew it had only recently happened because she went to her mums house the other day and nobody was in and so she'd walked to where her grandma used to live and knocked on a door and a woman had come out and she asked her if she had seen her mum and the woman told her she was dead. So mum knew her mum was dead now, it was couple of weeks ago she found out and she didn't want to miss funeral. She hadn't been so if had it then she'd missed it. After a bit of gentle explaining she seemed to get it and said oh i must be mixed up then, so we stayed bit longer talking about tv and then she told me she wasn't coming tomorrow cos she wanted to do her work. She had washing to do because she'd not been there for a while. Only been at my house for afternoon but thinks she's been staying elsewhere for a while and just come back, she does this a lot. So she said oh well I still got stuff to do but you can come if you want. I said I'd come to hers later and we talked for a minute about that then as I said we'd go home now and I'd see her tomorrow she said she'd have to ring her brother to come clear house. I told her it was all done and sorted and she didnt need ring him. Well whats all this then she said pointing to her furniture. I said this is yours this is your house. No its not I live in .... (childhood home) this is mums house here. Then she looked round for a bit and said oh no this is mine isn't it, its only one bedroom my mums had 3. We got her settled down again so then left saying I'd ring when get in and see you tomorrow.
When I rang her to say I was home she asked where i was and who I was with and where I'd been. She thought she had been at friends house and they had brought her back. She couldnt remember being with me and hubby and after a few questions said I'm confused Andie I don't know whats happening to me. We were on the phone about ten minutes with her saying she had thought this and not that been with me and didn't know why mixing it up and was confused and she was going to get worse and did hubby think she was barmy cos she didnt know been with us. I tied to reassure her not barmy and it would be ok and she was ok and she said you'll have to start and say who you are, tell me your Andie and say where you taking me.
If only it were that simple, I do say who I am and do say where going but she doesn't take it in or remember it a lot of the times.
After being so much calmer on saturday and sunday, gradually the worrying and being anxious when shes confused is coming back a bit more each day and its lasting longer and her questioning and mixed up thinking but needing to keep talking about it is getting back to how it was before new tablet. So far she's not getting aggressive and is staying calmer, but is starting to get more upset about it and was almost on verge of shouting today a couple of times while saying I was wrong about something.