I know it’s difficult to read but please don’t go & visit Bridget in the late afternoon, sundowning occurs with dementia & you don’t need to experience this at the moment. You are going to visit your daughter at the weekend, so by not going in today will be a gentle natural introduction to a new routine. You have a busy day ahead of you, be kind to yourself.Thank you so much kindred. I’m off to the doctors now a blood test and him to look at my hand scratched by a cat. It’s throbbing and I think I’ll need some antibiotics. Then it’s hospital for a talk with the consultant about prostate concerns and then to the home to see my wife Bridget. I really hope she’s ok.
But some flowers & a vase while you are out- supermarkets do a range of cheap vases( don’t take in one from home - just trust me on this please) believe me your wife will be thrilled & they will brighten & make her room more personal.
I still bring Dad items from home ( when my Mum will allow me to - she has dementia to & hoardes everything!) to personalise his room. Pictures ( the care home mount them on the wall), clothes which I buy a small / thin sharpie pen & write his name on all the labels, or care instructions other side. Cushions & throws from home & bedding. I went out & bought single bedding with lovely prints I knew my Dad would like. You can still spoil your loved one, I take in pastries, crisps, drinks & even frozen pasties for the kitchen to cook up for him as a treat! Your wife will still like putting on nice clothes & shoes, having new clothes will always bring pleasure.
Pleased you went for a walk with a friend. It’s hard I know, my husband works away mostly - not the same I know, he’s worked away for over 20 years now; I spend most of my time on my own. I don’t like it, but it is my life & i have to find things to fill my time or I’m miserable. I have a couple of dogs, that gives me structure to my days. Also it’s lovely company. I guess I’m saying that loneliness can be felt by anyone in any situation.
Be kind to yourself.