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What's there, when there appears to be nothing left ...

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by kindred, Jul 6, 2019.

  1. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
    1,173
    Oh my lovely, I do understand really. But the ultimate betrayal would be you not fulfilling your life to the full. Your wife would want only the best for her child, believe me as a mother you want your children to be happy & will do anything to help them achieve this.
    You are fulfilling your wife’s natural instincts, she would be proud of this as Would any mother.

    Why should you want more ..?

    Really ...

    Because you are a father, a grandfather, a father-in-law, a family member, a husband & mostly a functioning human being who has the capacity to make choices for himself.
    So I’m not being harsh, but you need to make choices now for you. It’s a time to grieve the person who is lost at times with dementia yes; but also a time to leave your own legacy & show your child, your daughter that you are still her Dad!

    Don’t make it so people dread talking to you, it has happened over the years with myself. So do what I say not what I did - really does apply from my own experiences!!

    Would you want anyone to feel like you? Would you wish these dark emotions on another? No!
    -So your wife doesn’t want you to feel like this for a start
    - your daughter needs you to be her Dad
    - your grandchildren/ child wants a Grandad
    - your friends want you to feel better
    - strangers on this forum want you to feel life is worth living.
    - your GP wants you to
    - the carers in the care home...
    - all the people who have responded to you on this forum..,,
    the list goes on...

    Only you can decided & make that conscious decision that today will be a better day.

    As they say my friend the ball is in your court.....,
     

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