Hi ,@chg I use body wipes, bigger than wet wipes, and Senset cleansing foam . I squirt the foam,use toilet paper or kitchen roll and that can often be enough. If more is needed I use body wipes but they are not flushable like toilet paper.my husband has lost control of his bowels. It is becoming more and more difficult to get him into shower to clean him up. Any suggestions?
This can be one of the most difficult and stressful things to deal with. It led to many confrontations and meltdowns with my partner. He just didn’t understand what had happened and that he couldn’t get dressed or go to bed without being cleaned up.my husband has lost control of his bowels. It is becoming more and more difficult to get him into shower to clean him up. Any suggestions?
Try the memory clinic direct and ask for their nurse. It was the memory clinic that referred my OH to incontinence team xShowering seem to be a real big issue with most of us. Wish I knew the answer
You could try speaking to GP about incontinence products @chg although GP practises vairy so much. Mine are useless.
Done thatTry the memory clinic direct and ask for their nurse. It was the memory clinic that referred my OH to incontinence team x
My oh not keen on showers. He says it's cold and I'm cruel when I make him get undressed 🙂 he was always a clean tidy man and would ask if he looked tidy. I use "making him look tidy" , as a phrase I think he has some recognition of. I squirt no rinse products on him and he usually very reluctantly will try to rinse off in the shower. Doesn'tI just have another row with my partner, when I suggested he should have a shower, (he has not have a shower for 2 weeks now!) Can anybody suggest what to do, how to convince him to shower himself? I know this seems not that important compared with worse things, but it depress me a lot, because it shouws how thing are gettin worse.. He never missed a shower in the 23 years I have known him, I am so sad because he gets so upset with me all the time, and he thinks I hate him....
My husband was 'having a bath' each day but one day I noticed he hadn't been in there very long when he was pulling the plug out. The next day I watched from outside the door. He filled the bath with about 2" of water, sat in it for about 30 seconds then got out again. Most of him wasn't even wet.I can remember the last time mum and dad came to stay with me. We didn't live close. Mum had dementia but was reasonably capable at that point. Mum was standing in the bathroom by the sink looking lost. I asked if she was alright. She said " he's asked me to get washed but I don't know how to. "
Dad didn't realise she needed help. After that he arranged a carer each morning to wash and dress mum .
Sometimes telling pwd isn't enough.
The not knowing what to do was key for my wife. Clothes off, Clothes on, phaff about. Simply didn't know how to take the correct sequence of steps. Now I run the bath for her and talk her through the steps. It also allows me to change her clothes/underwear when I feel appropriate. Every other day I go for, as too much work otherwise, but this is because I have to blow dry her hair afterwards or it will be frizzy. (There is a knack to blow drying frizzy hair, so that it doesn't frizz! )I can remember the last time mum and dad came to stay with me. We didn't live close. Mum had dementia but was reasonably capable at that point. Mum was standing in the bathroom by the sink looking lost. I asked if she was alright. She said " he's asked me to get washed but I don't know how to. "
Dad didn't realise she needed help. After that he arranged a carer each morning to wash and dress mum .
Sometimes telling pwd isn't enough.
You aren't alone, seems to be one thing that's very common. Seems to think a wet wipe is enough. Used to showered everyday but now become a real battle. It's 4 weeks tomorrow. I've just given up. No one else seems to care so why should I? I just make sure I don't get too close 🥴🥴I just have another row with my partner, when I suggested he should have a shower, (he has not have a shower for 2 weeks now!) Can anybody suggest what to do, how to convince him to shower himself? I know this seems not that important compared with worse things, but it depress me a lot, because it shouws how thing are gettin worse.. He never missed a shower in the 23 years I have known him, I am so sad because he gets so upset with me all the time, and he thinks I hate him....