Dear, dear Fishgirl I am senior fish person personified. There are days when nothing but venom comes out of my mouth - anger, disappointment, dissatisfaction overtake the nice(?) me and I BLAST OFF! - Oh yes those holiday photos. The lazy, hazy happy holiday they're having (3rd this year or whatever) - and the comments when they return bronzed and replete. "Are you going away? No? Oh but you should! - it's not good for you not to get away. I KNOW THAT!!!!! Oh don't I want to weep and scream and rant for us all and just wish for a very small slice of justice for every last one of us tired, deflated carers. (sorry, no suggestions for where that justice might come from.) Oh yes! Those holidays Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr!. Take heart fishgirl, I suspect we're part of a very, very large group of people that feel just the way you and I do. Sympathy and hugs too you .