Hello Dave. You've been through the mill once more haven't you, and now you're left feeling disappointed and sad, but you may be sure you're not abandoned!
Sorry I haven't been posting on here, had a little mini drama of my own which forced me to take a cool look at my own situation.. I realised that it's up to me to try and look after myself better, so that I can do the best for my husband. I was lucky, I got three proper night's sleep, which makes all the difference. Now I can think straighter, I hope.
Whether my husband likes it or not, somehow I'll have to get him to accept some Day Care, for his own good. There are other things available, like a friendly person who would take him out somewhere. I wonder if it's possible to find something like that for your wife, because it must be worrying for you when she goes out on her own.
Don't give up, mon brave!
Good afternoon Anne
Thank you for your message, I do realise that folk have lives outside of TP and are also caring for others and trying to keep themselves fit and well enough to do that job with all that goes along with caring, please do not need to apologise for not posting, I do not keep tabs of folk, honest
Yes, one more disappointment but at the end of the day I am new to all this once the decision was taken back on February to take my wife to the doctors. It seem that this disease, diagnosis and support takes forever, I am not good at waiting, never have been and more than likely never will be able to wait (My bad)
My wife is not in immediate need of help, it is me that has to ask for the help, this was done yesterday, however, it is another waiting game as it seems like the SS and carers support are snowed under with cases, never knew until recently on how many folk this one disease takes out, 1 sufferer, 1 (or more) carers, 1 SS person, 1 memory clinic nurse and doctors and specialists. Now I am realising why there are such huge waiting times
Anyway, it is me that need to slow down, breath deeply and learn a little patience, understanding and things can not be fixed in an instant.
SEE, I AM GETTING IT NOW
My wife is not ill enough to need a carer and she seems to do well on the bus trips, no problems as of yet, she also like her independence. Other than Daughter 2 there is no one else to accompany her anywhere and daughter 2 has a life, husband, 2 kids (grown up) and 2 dogs to care for. What she has done for me this week was a great relief and she is taking my wife to Bournemouth for 2 nights and 3 days to visit daughter 1 which will give me enough time to put the house and myself back in order.
Back to your post...
Yes, as you and many others have told me many occasions, we all need rest and that goes for the folk that kept on telling me this ( think you were one of the many
). please do as you preach and gave a day or two off, I know it is hard, my 2 day break last week ended in a complete disaster (not going into that again) but something good did come out of it as Daughter 2 is on board whenever she can and the 2 night break at the end of the month. So it will be just me and Zeus (fingers crossed)
So, rambling Dave is at it again....