Morning Dave
I'm not surprised you're feeling dizzzy but well done on making the call.
I think because your wife is already under care the memory nurse is the one who 'should' be the connecting link for you in getting other services. I put it in ' ' because with the changes in the NHS and social care this can be different from area to area and in the current climate is constantly changing - they don't make it easy do they
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I hope you get that call back soon and the ball can start rolling.
In my area things are very bad hence they pushed me to Age UK to fund my own HH and refused me a proper assessment because some days I could function! they may use excuses not to provide care which I hope you don't experience but stand your ground.
Best
Sue
The problem I have is that OH goes out on buses to different town every day, sometimes multiple times in a day, I do not know what she gets up to or how other folk see here so would the powers to be think that care is not required
It's in the house where the problems are, morning, noon and night, she is doing things that no child would do once told not to do it, she is confused, does not cook, clean, personal hygiene has gone so has her clothes choice
She steps in dog poo everyday bring it into the house, yes I do check for puppy poo all the time, but if I miss one it is guaranteed to be brought in the house
Her language, reasoning, understanding, memory are non existent, she does not want help, threatens with divorce, moving out, the "F" word id her favourite along with 2 fingers (something she has never done before in her life)
Every day like clockwork she puts a pen through the calendar for that day, always has done but this does not happen any longer, no problem but just another thing that she has done for eternity but does not do any more, there are hundreds of minor things, it is constant.
She is aggressive, constantly asking questions, question, questions, guessing 200-300 or more every single day 7 days a week
I am now sleeping on the couch, fully clothed for the past 2 nights as I am really finding it hard being next to my wife (I shower once she gets up). I know I have covered all of this in various posts but as I am sat here thinking of what to say to anyone whom may call me from the memory team I thought I would list in my own head everything I am concerned about
She is horrible to the neighbours, never to their face though, only to me, delights when neighbour lost his job, then went in to hospital for an operation returning with his arm in a pot
She, does not, will not leave my side when she returns from her bus trips, constantly walks around, hands behind her back asking really infantile questions, will not take a no for any answer, can not sit down for more than 2 minutes in a different room if I am not there, constantly requests that I sit in the front room with her when I say no, I am working in the next room, running my online business sh yells that I hate her, should we get divorced etc. etc.
She is incapable to finding anything on the TV to watch, I have to press the buttons, this is a new one as only last week she could use the remote.
She gets bored after 2 minutes and is asking me all the time what should she do, hell, I am work in the day answering calls, replying to e-mail, checking site, stock changes, processing orders, dispatching them, taking payments, issuing refunds, looking after our dog, going for walkies twice a day, feeding him, bathing him, comforting him, playing with him, I can not do anymore than I am doing now
I am lucky if I get 2 or 3 hours sleep a night, wake up on the sofa fully dressed then it all starts again
There are many more hundreds of things I could mention but I think you all get the jist of things
I AM UNABLE TO COPE, I AM UNHAPPY, I AM EXHAUSTED (all of the time) and now I am waiting for a call that may or may not happen
Edit:
I forgot to mention the BEST part - My wife is like an angel if front of anyone else, it's just me she is horrible too.
