Blimey, I find it so hard and don’t have 3 children to organise, I have just the work thing, you are amazing, hats off to you.
So agree we cannot do it all but boy do we try, for me it’s because I think no one can do it as well as me
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that’s so to my detriment.
Hmmm, from my reading on here, the actual responsibility for caring is not with us, it’s with the local authorities. I guess you could call ours the love caring and authorities have practical responsibility.
Mum has carers in twice a day and day centre 3 times a week.
I’ve read great advice on here saying get loved ones to accept help by saying its a friend of yours that is trying to get a job and is learning, would they help them learn how to do such and such. Or even its a free service being tested out, you paid your stamp, you deserve it. I tell Mum everything is free, she accepts it more.
I found it a slog getting the people you want on board. I had to commit some time to bringing it together, but worth it. Admiral nursing, really help or if you have a local carer centre, both will co ordinate a lot for you. Unfortunately it’s he who shouts loudest, gets the results. Mums mental health Doc is great and will make things happen too. It’s just finding the right person who will make it happen. I wrote one letter and sent to, GP, local Alzheimers society, Age Concern, Social Services, followed by assertive phone call.
The various organisations have been through the refusals over and over so knew what to say to Mum. I primed them before any appointments so they knew how Mum would react.
I didn’t and won’t give in, my Mum is going to be looked after by professional people, so I can administer the hugs and kisses.
Sorry if I’m rambling and repeating everything you’ve heard before.
Good luck, let me know how you go. X