My mother has vascular dementia, and is talking about people who have passed on. Some days, she tells me she has just heard that her mother has died. Other days she tells me one of her brothers may be dead but she will find out. Both her mother, father and two brothers have died. Each time she talks about one of them, the tale differs as in how they died, where it was, she thinks they may have died but doesn't know for sure. I also think that what she is telling me at different times about one of them is a mixture of how they all died.
As I'm ringing her from Australia, I am unsure if what I have been doing is the correct way to deal with it.
I just listen and let her tell me all about the bad news she has. I don't disagree with her as how can I tell her no mum your dad died when you were in your teens, your mum when I was 18 months old (I'm 53).
Am I doing the write thing in just letting her talk, or should I come right out and say, mum they died years ago.
Bantu
As I'm ringing her from Australia, I am unsure if what I have been doing is the correct way to deal with it.
I just listen and let her tell me all about the bad news she has. I don't disagree with her as how can I tell her no mum your dad died when you were in your teens, your mum when I was 18 months old (I'm 53).
Am I doing the write thing in just letting her talk, or should I come right out and say, mum they died years ago.
Bantu