My partner has early onset dementia which has progressed at an alarming rate. Although only diagnosed for just over a year we are at the 24/7 care need. He’s only 62 and I’m much younger.
Last night was the last in an endless line of seriously broken nights culminating in a ‘wander’ and a frantic drive around town looking for him. He thinks I’m selfish for a) not letting him out and about in the small hours b) needing any sleep myself.
Despite having an excellent social worker, as varied a programme of activities as anyone could hope for, as much exercise and activity as possible, I’m at my wits end with his sleep patterns (or lack of). Between my job (teaching) and being his carer I’m pretty much at the end of my energy elastic. Can anymore survive on less than 2 hours a night?
All the usual supports are in place including a short respite break in a few weeks, but I’m on my knees physically and emotionally. The lack of sleep and stress is relentless.
This morning all I can see is another day ahead chained to a situation I didn’t choose, frustrations galore and another night ahead of nocturnal battles.
Sorry, but just needed to vent and we all know we can’t talk to our partners about any of this! 🥲
Last night was the last in an endless line of seriously broken nights culminating in a ‘wander’ and a frantic drive around town looking for him. He thinks I’m selfish for a) not letting him out and about in the small hours b) needing any sleep myself.
Despite having an excellent social worker, as varied a programme of activities as anyone could hope for, as much exercise and activity as possible, I’m at my wits end with his sleep patterns (or lack of). Between my job (teaching) and being his carer I’m pretty much at the end of my energy elastic. Can anymore survive on less than 2 hours a night?
All the usual supports are in place including a short respite break in a few weeks, but I’m on my knees physically and emotionally. The lack of sleep and stress is relentless.
This morning all I can see is another day ahead chained to a situation I didn’t choose, frustrations galore and another night ahead of nocturnal battles.
Sorry, but just needed to vent and we all know we can’t talk to our partners about any of this! 🥲