Sounds a bit like our ‘putting the shop away’ too. 😁 But I agree, I think it is so good and so important, even if somewhat of a ‘dance’, and hide and seek. Isn’t it wonderful when these ‘lost’ skills make these unexpected reappearance.I think it adds to the fun, trying to work out where things have gone. He tends to put the bottles away as they are heavy then gets in my way after that
Thank you, Izzy, at my wits end and although peace has broken out (Classic Corrie is on TV) I feel so down and, daft as it is, disappointed.I’m so sorry to hear about this morning @Agzy. It must have been hard after spending such a nice time with your daughter. I do hope you can get the respite break sorted out.
Thank you, I will tryit feels as if everything revolves around the PWD. and no matter how hard you try, it's never right, .you deserve a break, and I hope you get one with your daughter....and don't feel guilty if you do...
I have asked and although they seem to agree to be more helpful but since the discussion we actually see less of them. They seem to believe that a half hour visit once a week is supportive but I just make their lives easier in what I do for their mum.
Hope the Tuesday Group and sing a long help Agzy. You are sounding very down. I do hope Pauline is her cheerful self today. I think her jealous behaviour is probably due to anxiety and insecurity (my OH can be similar), but I know know know that does not make it any easier to deal with ….. On a much lighter note I left my OH for one hour yesterday late afternoon to visit my daughter and this morning have noticed that while I was out he had pulled down all of one of my beautiful clematis which was in full flower. I cried, and am now trying to put it to one side before he comes downstairs as saying anything is NOT a good idea and will not lead to a happy day. Trying to laugh doesn’t always work. Fingers crossed for a good day for you both.I must thank admin and others for help and support offered in the past 24 hours but, as I explained, when you live in a cocoon or bubble with a dementia sufferer it isn’t easy to just pick up the phone and have serious and in depth conversations about them and the illness they have, it just can’t happen.
It is the same for all the carers support groups in the community, I cannot just up and leave her for several hours without proper explanation via the white board knowing family help for her is thin on the ground.
What I do know is my perception of what caring would mean when all this started was way off beam as I just couldn’t have imagined the mental corkscrewing torture that comes with the physical challenges. Thank you all again and now for our wonderful Tuesday group and then this afternoon a song-a-long to guys with guitars 😊.