Morning everyone,
Isn't it so very strange how the same symptoms and behaviours crop up time and time and time again? The wanting 'home', the delusions about animals and children - and the hoarding/constant purchasing? (to name but a few!). The house fire must have been awful, Red - and no doubt increased your worries about your Dad as obviously, all that 'stuff' would add to any fire risk
I hope last night was a better night for you IzzyJ - you do need to be 'kind to yourself', as Red says xxx
Ebay or Gum tree are a good idea, Spamar - easy to do a search and see what price is fair, and if you state 'Buyer collects', hopefully, not much hassle for you to get rid quickly and easily
It could be that tiredness after your Mum's exciting week caused the 'blip' and confusion over the remote control, Slugsta - but, I must admit that my experience has been that with things like that, specific confusion over what items are for (or just forgetting how to use them) tends to start off as occasional 'blips' and then usually slowly but surely increase. Mil knows what the remote is, but her ability to use it varies enormously from day to day (or even hour to hour) and instances where she just hasn't a clue and stands there pressing random buttons are increasing. She also knows what the phone is and what its used for, has never demonstrated any confusion over that - but I don't know how competent she would be at remembering how to use it - if she would realise she has to press a certain button for the dialing code before she dials the number, if she would be able to press numbers in order, etc, etc . Not that I'm about to risk finding out, mind you. She has been far too handy at ringing 999 in the past, so the phone is usually hidden out of her reach.
I think both OH and I struggled with Mil's 'magpie' tendencies at first, just in terms of we were horrified at the idea of her her stealing - just something she would absolutely not have previously done, and I guess you feel the same over your Mum and the cake. Gradually we have realised that she (mostly) doesn't see it as taking something that isn't for her or actually hers, she (again mostly - the attempted blanket theft the other day was a diiferent story, lol) guenuinely believes that the food or the items have been bought by her, or given to her or she has been told to take them. Our main concern now is the worry that she may take an item that is important to another pwd and cause them some upset - she would most cerrtainly notice if 'Paddy' (the toy leprachaun) went missing, so who's to say that someone else at the home/DC wouldn't be upset by their teddy going missing? - or even cause their relatives some upset. We see plenty of completely understandable posts on here from carers who have been upset by their loved ones possessions going 'walkabout' in CH's or respite. Its got to the stage now where I regularly check her bag (and pockets) either after she has gone to bed, or before she gets up in the morning, so that I can hopefully find any purloined articles and get then returned asap. (Incidentally, I've checked this morning, but all I found was quite a collection of sweet wrappers!)
Enjoyed the zoo yesterday, though I had to give up on the butterfly house, the humidity was horrendous and as I was only there for a few short hours while OH picked up son, I gave up after 35 minutes and my lens still fogging up every few seconds. I'll have to save that one for when the weather outside the house isn't such a contrast to the weather inside it!. On the plus side, I got some sweet shots of a new baby Banteng (type of cattle) who was on public show for the first time, some nice pics of the dwarf mongooses (first time I've seen them out!) and various other pics that I'm happy with. I'll just have to try for the butterflies and the baby rhino (also in hiding yesterday) next time I go.
OH and son got caught in trafic and by the time we got home, it was after the school had closed. Not wanting to send the email, have it generate the auto 'out of office' response and perhaps be overlooked, I'll now send it on Monday - the school, according to callers list on phone, had made no attempt to contact us
OH picked Mil up, again quite shocked by how she was decidedly underwhelmed by son being here - no excitement, no awareness (it seemed) that he isn't here all the time - such a big contrast to even a few months ago. All peaceful till after tea, when she began to sundown and went on and on and on for about an hour and a half. Would OH take her home now? They had to get back to their mother (she was certain OH was her brother for much of last night), She had told her Mum she was 'coming home tonight', so she must go now. Could she phone her Mum? Could she phone home? Over and over, OH really gently explained that she lives here, and talked with her about what had hapened to her Mum, each time she would seem to accept (albeit grudgingly) that he was telling the truth, but then a moment later, would start again. In the end, OH put a film on, which seemed to work - but I must admit, I was a bit fed up. I don't watch much TV, just a few programmes that I enjoy - but with the TV so often being 'taken over' by the need to keep Mil 'calm', I now have programmes stacked up on the planner that I'm beginning to doubt I'll ever get chance to watch
It doesn't usually bother me, but last night it just rankled - especially as she had been pretty good the night before and OH had been able to watch his football!
She was quite calm at bedtime, no problems getting her settled - but, i have had to guide her back to bed twice since 5a.m. - each time, she has thought that she has to get up for 'work' but has accepted (with relief) when I've said that its the weekend and she can have a 'lie in'.
Its her 75th tomorrow - we are feeling very guilty that we are not making a big thing of it, just a few presents and cards
We just don't think she can handle anything more without getting agitated and upset. I'll cook as nice a meal as I can manage, and throw in her favourite pudding of a trifle, but thats as far as we dare take it - its so sad
Hope you all have a good day xxxx