Morning all,
Grace, I think you need to practice saying 'No' on the phone, hun, hard as it is. I'm inclined to agree that your Sil is trying to make sure that you are tied into her Mum's care, to make you responsible for at least a good size portion of it - she is being quite crafty about it, so I think you have to be on the ball and have excuses lined up in advnce for when she rings next. Hope you are right about your Mil now not driving, and have my fingers crossed that the op date isn't far away xxxx
Slugsta - yep, we got away for weekends twice at the end of last Summer (once Old Red was at the stage where we could have nights away in her) and we use her now for odd days out while MIl is in DC - much better for transporting the doggies and us if we want a wander round somewhere that isn't that close. Hoping that, even with the potential for OH's job situation changing, that we can get away a few more times this coming Summer
Good news on the insurance company and the DLA/PIP being sorted - fingers crossed the ESA is plain sailing to deal with too!
No coat loop yesterday morning with Mil, but yet again, one of her amazingly plausible confabulations kept her chatting for about 25 minutes before the mini bus driver arrived. She always has confabulated - along with the delusions, they are a pretty much daily occurance - but at the moment, a lot don't feature the usual impossiilities (like the stories about her going to the cinema with her brothers the night before) but rather are about mundane and very plausible events. Her tone and expressions are appropriate to what she is saying, she isn't back-tracking and changing the story mid sentence and she is able to sustain talking about whatever it is for 20 minutes or more without there being any 'off notes' - I thought all of those abilities were long gone. Usually, even if the content could be believable to anyone who doesn't know her, its pretty clear quite quickly that she has 'problems', because of the way she tells the tales - her body language, expressions and the tone of voice don't gel with what she is saying, IYKWIM. But, as with the tale about a lady passing away at DC last week, and the tale I got about how the mini bus had broken down a few days ago, yesterday's tale of how the usual driver was going to a funeral, so - with a 'new' driver taking his place - she had been told that the bus could be 'quite late' picking her up, all sounded completely believable, even while I was telling myself that it was almost certainly another invention. And, of course, it was all fantasy - the usual driver turned up at around the usual time. I asked - again to be sure - about this 'funeral' and he confirmed that nope, nothing like that had been mentioned - but he also told me that staff at DC had also been treated to some of these convincing tales and that only the day before, 2 different staff had come to him to check on something Mil had told them about, that involved him, that also turned out to be completely invented. He said that the staff had both said that even given Mil's known issues with delusions and confabulations, that she had more than half convinced them that what she was saying was accurate and true. I've suggested that they keep a close eye on the door when any residents have visitors - even occasional visitors are likely to know the code for the door (it was printed out and pinned above the door for ages - up until Mil managed her great escape!) and given Mils current skill in presenting a very convincing front, I woudn't be surprised if she was able to persuade someone to open it for her!
Last night she was a pain over asking or trying to get into the kitchen - everything from needing to do the dishes to an insistance that I'd asked her to put away the laundry that I'd told her I'd left there for her, as well as her having to check various things cooking or how she had left various items in there. Bed no problems, but the last hour before she went up, the cold - which I thought seemed 100% better yesterday morning - seemed to get a lot worse. She was going through even bigger mountains of tissues than usual and then during the night, I heard her coughing. Will see how she is this morning, but strongly suspect that I'm going to have to get her to the GP and there will be no DC today
Will make for a long weekend, as OH is on 12 hours today and Sunday, but it can't be helped if she is poorly - just have to brace myself and get on with it!
Hope you all have a good day xxx
