Beverley - at the risk of sounding like a broken record: I have seen no evidence ANYWHERE that social services would or could object to your father paying you to be his assistant. The issue appears to be that you don't want to pay taxes on that money. I understand why you feel that way, and I don't blame you. However, there is that solution. I don't know what the current tax allowances are. Have you calculated how much you could be be paid without paying tax on the money and then add it to any expenses that your father could reimburse you for?. Alternatively, don't forget that if you do receive the carer's allowance you also get credited for NI contributions which may not seem a big deal at your age but could be important down the line.