Jaynemills
You knew in your heart of hearts that this would be I diagnosis I guess. Still feels like a blow to have it official doesn’t it ?
My advice
Take it a day at a time if you can , with the exception of the practical stuff
If you haven’t already looked into LPA , attendance allowance and reduced Council Tax payments
As one is the carer for the other, could you introduce a ‘cleaner’ as soon as possible for folks to get used to?