Hello and thank you for all that you do.
My father is 85 and diagnosed with mild alzheimers dimentia in June in the same week I was told that my mother's cancer is palliative. She passed away in September and my father always relied heavily on her.
My daughter (16) and I have lived with them all my daughter's life. This meant that when my mother got ill, I was able to care for her. I stopped working so that I could everything for her. I am now back at work, but my daughter's attendance (she's a 6th former now) is 65%; this is due to grief as, so far, she has not had any emotional support. The Isabel Hospice have offered, so looking forward to this for her in the new year.
The reason I am saying all this is because after she lost the person who was like a mother to her, she has since gained joint responsibility for my father.
My father has never been easy to get along with and he has old fashioned values, ie, I am youngest of 3, the only female. He feels he should do all the "man" things, and if I explain something to him that he feels isn't a woman's business, he immediately disregards it. Things can get really quite verbal!
We have recently made contact with Alzheimers Society who are ushering us through, and this is how I found you.
Gonna be a tough Christmas this year, the first without my mother/his wife.