Hello Wifenotcarer. I do hope you get a resolution to your situation before too much longer. Do listen to your daughters - if they are convinced that a move to a Care Home is essential for both you and your OH's sake then that is almost certainly the way to go. Even if the Care Home is further away than you would like, you will have more energy for travelling to the Home to visit once you aren't doing endless rounds of washing and cleaning up.Wondering now if I can manage to keep OH at home rather than have him sent to/installed in a Care Home far away. Everyone, including the Daughters was convinced that a move to a Care Home was essential for my own and OH's sake, but that was when the 'just up the road' Care Home was available. I was always willing to soldier on while I had that option coming soon. Now I don't know what to do.
If it were necessary, then I WOULD accept a Care Home at a distance, but not when there is a Home with currently 3 vacances, that OH is familiar with and is a five minute walk away. Our local Councillor has really got his dander up, incensed that 'officials' have gone ahead with the 'no admissions pending closure' policy, without the elected members permission or knowledge. He has contacted the Chief Executives of all 3 Councils involved in the Health and Social Care Partnership, who have been as shocked as himself over the way this has come about. All 3 are now determined to reverse the no admissions directive, Instead anyone being referred to this Care Home will be asked to sign a statement confirming that they are aware that the Home will close in between two to three years and residents at that time will be guaranteed a place in the newly built replacement.Hello Wifenotcarer. I do hope you get a resolution to your situation before too much longer. Do listen to your daughters - if they are convinced that a move to a Care Home is essential for both you and your OH's sake then that is almost certainly the way to go. Even if the Care Home is further away than you would like, you will have more energy for travelling to the Home to visit once you aren't doing endless rounds of washing and cleaning up.
If it were necessary, then I WOULD accept a Care Home at a distance, but not when there is a Home with currently 3 vacances, that OH is familiar with and is a five minute walk away. Our local Councillor has really got his dander up, incensed that 'officials' have gone ahead with the 'no admissions pending closure' policy, without the elected members permission or knowledge. He has contacted the Chief Executives of all 3 Councils involved in the Health and Social Care Partnership, who have been as shocked as himself over the way this has come about. All 3 are now determined to reverse the no admissions directive, Instead anyone being referred to this Care Home will be asked to sign a statement confirming that they are aware that the Home will close in between two to three years and residents at that time will be guaranteed a place in the newly built replacement.
I also happened to meet the Manager of the Home by chance yesterday. She asked if I had heard anything so I told her all I knew. She said that officially she has been told none of this, only that there were to be no admissions. Then she thanked me, for standing my ground and making a fuss, which they, as staff cannot do, and told me that I may have saved the home!!! And then joked that they will have to name one of the Dementia Wings after me.
D rang DVLA, who agreed that car had been taxed at 9.58, said we were not to worry, there would be no fine. D registered a complaint about the way I had been treated, which was noted. She did manage to start the car and reverse it into the drive. I have driven it up and down the drive but have not had the courage to take it out onto the main road yet.The comedy of errors continues. As the car was not ready on Wednesday, the salesman, knowing that OH cannot be left 'home alone' said he would bring the 'new to us' car to our home and take the older one away. However he phoned this am to say that he was tied up and 'one of the girls', would bring the car + the paperwork for signing and meantime he organised and I paid for the car tax on line.
I put our old car out on the street, which is a busy main road, so that the new one could go straight into the driveway. In the event, she parked new car someway up the street, was in and out of the house in a couple of minutes. I tried to ask about the promised 'lesson' in how to operate an automatic, but apparently that had not been mentioned to her and she had to hurry.
I went out to wave off our old car and saw a man in a yellow jacket taking photographs of the new car, which was parked so far out in the street that it was blocking traffic. Went to ask him what he was doing and he said he was from the DVLA and the device he was carrying had alerted him that the car was untaxed. I asked him to check again as I had just taken delivery of the car and knew it was taxed at 10am this morning. He was having none of it, told me I would face a £60 fine, then checked and said the car had not been taxed since April, so the fine would be nearer £260 and IF my story were true I had better take the matter up with the seller. He then slapped a huge yellow sticker on the car window, which said 'This car is untaxed - an offence under the Road Traffic Act has been committed and notified to the DVLA.' Then he warned me that if I drove the car, even to put it into our driveway i.e. offroad, that I would be committing a further offence.
Off he went leaving me with OH running about the pavement and road like a headless chicken, demanding that I turn in the wing mirrors as the car was sticking out into the road. I did try, but, being totally unaware that I had to press the BRAKE before pressing the starter, I could not get car, nor wing mirrors to move.
Phoned the car sales, who confirmed that the Tax was paid. Indeed the certificate was in the folder inside the car. Not a single one of our friendly neighbours was at home. I did not know what to do. When.....
Out of the blue, younger daughter, appeared on the doorstep. The kindly car salesman had phoned her, saying that her MUm (me) was very upset, asking if she could could come to our house to help as he could not leave work.
D rang DVLA, who agreed that car had been taxed at 9.58, said we were not to worry, there would be no fine. D registered a complaint about the way I had been treated, which was noted. She did manage to start the car and reverse it into the drive. I have driven it up and down the drive but have not had the courage to take it out onto the main road yet.
Well done and hopefully today will be the day that results in you getting the care you need for your husband.