Oh my
@Wifenotcarer I've been reading your thread from the start today... apart from the hiding of wet clothes, you could have been talking about my dad. Even down to hiding the banana skins, we have found them in bags, in shoes, behind the TV, etc.
The above post is another mirror into my dad's life. I used to say that his wet accidents seem to take place at his home but never at his day care. And then out of the blue after two years of attending, they called us a couple weeks ago to say he had wet himself. And now this week they said if he is to still attend, someone needs to be with him - which is not possible as when he's out the house with non-family, that's when we can do the chores more quickly.
Funnily enough he was doing reasonably OK with the tenas pull-ups and then we had the first appt with the incontinence service who sent us pads and since then his toilet habits have got worse.
I'm thinking it was the change to his routine that may have upset something in his mind. It's interesting to read that you think the pad got in the way for your husband to go toilet, I didn't think of that but thought of getting washable pouch pants to see if they work with my dad.
And now we're in that situation you described in a previous post or two where, despite wearing pads or tena pull-ups, he was still wetting himself because he takes out his willy to urinate and either not stand that close to the toilet (we do go in with him) or doesn't hold it at all. Either way he ends up weeing over himself. Sometimes he doesn't do it by the toilet or in the bathroom, so you definitely have lots of empathy for me about the amount times you're having to clean and do washing.
I'd love to give you a solution but don't have a definitive one. One relative said to use an adult nappy where he is unable to access his own willy and therefore goes in the nappy instead. I've called the incontinence service this morning and of course all you get is a recorded message, so waiting on that to see what they say if/when they call back.
Fingers crossed for us all xx.