I too have been following this thread, You are helping many of us by your descriptions, and your thoughts.
Sending love Jeannette
Sending love Jeannette
Poor Piedsmum is poorly again.
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Funny, I was only thinking this morning how lovely it is that you have Mr Pied's support. That you can have this precious time with your mum & know he has your back & he and kids are ok.
Hope today stays peaceful x
Lin x
Thanks for reminding me to thank him Lin. I just have.
My boss says this is my Stabat Mater. (Had to look it up but it's beautiful).
My boss says this is my Stabat Mater. (Had to look it up but it's beautiful).
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Dear Pied
Like so many others here on TP you are constantly in my thoughts. Your Mum is amazing. So are you.
This thread is amazing. Thank you for sharing with us during your long vigil. I am lost for words now, so many have said wonderous things.
I continue to wish peace for your Mum, and for peace and tranquility to fill the room.
Sending you love and strength and much admiration.
Loo xxx
Like so many others here on TP you are constantly in my thoughts. Your Mum is amazing. So are you.
This thread is amazing. Thank you for sharing with us during your long vigil. I am lost for words now, so many have said wonderous things.
I continue to wish peace for your Mum, and for peace and tranquility to fill the room.
Sending you love and strength and much admiration.
Loo xxx
Thank you Loo. It's hard to imagine Mum could look any worse, but I'm afraid in the last half hour she does. Pattern is 8 breaths then gap.
We are still talking to her, telling her to take messages to our grans, telling her there is a promotion waiting for her (to glory, Deborah, to glory!) and that she must think its time to let go.
I have smiled my best smile into her eyes, not sure if their sense is shut or not. (To quote Shakespeare) - but it's hard now to summon a lightness of voice.
You probably know this already Pied, forgive me if you do, but the hearing is the last thing to go and I have read that it can be around 20 minutes after the person has died before it is lost.
When my parents and husband died we continued to talk to them for some time afterwards, telling them we loved them etc. It's a very precious time.
Thinking of you xx
When my parents and husband died we continued to talk to them for some time afterwards, telling them we loved them etc. It's a very precious time.
Thinking of you xx
Mum has been turned onto her left side and seems to be breathing more easily. I'm tired now but I think we still have a long road to travel. Mum's breathing much more evenly and the gaps have gone completely.
I had a conversation with a nurse ages ago who worked with terminally ill patients.
She told me that when they passed it was her job to disconnected them from things like oxygen machines etc.She always used to talk to them as though they were still alive as she thought their spirit could still be leaving their body. She used to reassure them that everything was ok and they were not to worry about relatives left behind.
This conversation stayed with me because the nurse seemed to be so young.She was a natural-rather like Pied's ex nun.Some nurses have a true calling.
Peace be with you Pied, Sis and Pied's Mum.
love from Lyn T
Thanks for the posts about talking after death. I think our plan is to do that.
The gaps are back. That did not take long to re-establish.
The gaps are back. That did not take long to re-establish.
Please try to get a bit of a rest, I'm so worried about the effect this is having on your body......I do know, easier said than done!!.x.x.
From the moment my Mum passed I held her close, kissed her brow, talked to her, even although she was deaf, her hearing aids had been removed. I could 'feel' her spirit, and since is was being freed from her earthly body, I hoped that she could hear my words.
We cannot know, we do what comes instinctively natural to do.
Many thoughts, much love
Loo xxx
We cannot know, we do what comes instinctively natural to do.
Many thoughts, much love
Loo xxx
Dear Pied, Sis and Mum,
I also follow your closing chapter and look in a few times a day to see how you are all faring. I think you are amazing.... all of you. I delight in the kind carers who help ease your paths, I get all rumpled up by those who walk like elephants in a china shop.....
Does your mother know just how many of us are following your journey? It is a long farewell and your mother is doing herself so proud. Now, why would she want to leave a life well lived with family so dear?
At least you know you have someone 100% dedicated to you and yours when she finally does pass on. I like the ideas of having family, ancestors, a clan, friends who are rooting for me while I live on.
Big hugs, you must be so so tired. BE
I also follow your closing chapter and look in a few times a day to see how you are all faring. I think you are amazing.... all of you. I delight in the kind carers who help ease your paths, I get all rumpled up by those who walk like elephants in a china shop.....
Does your mother know just how many of us are following your journey? It is a long farewell and your mother is doing herself so proud. Now, why would she want to leave a life well lived with family so dear?
At least you know you have someone 100% dedicated to you and yours when she finally does pass on. I like the ideas of having family, ancestors, a clan, friends who are rooting for me while I live on.
Big hugs, you must be so so tired. BE
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