Partner with Dementia (Vascular)

[Franya]

My partner has vascular dementia and a very bad temper and I am struggling alone caring for him.

 

[jennifer1967]

My partner has vascular dementia and a very bad temper and I am struggling alone caring for him.

my husband has vascular dementia and did have an angry temper but has benefitted from memantine. its calmed him down. i talked to my doctor who referred him to older persons mental health. you need to ask for help but you have to be persitent and keep asking. have you had a needs assessment for your partner and carer assessment for yourself? you need to phone social services.

 

[Gosling]

Hello @Franya and welcome to this friendly and supportive forum. There is a wealth of shared experience of dementia to be found here so I am glad you have found us.

I am sorry to read of your Partner's dementia diagnosis. Caring for a loved one with dementia can take over one's life, and I know how isolating that can be. So I would certainly agree, it would be wise to get Social Services involved with a care needs assessment for your partner, and a carer assessment for you. You don't want to suffer carer burnout, as then you will be of no support to him. The following link may help ;

The care needs assessment: support for people with dementia

This page looks at how a person with dementia can get a care assessment, who does an assessment, how they are carried out, who makes the decision, and tips for making the most of the care needs assessment. It also explains the eligibility criteria.

www.alzheimers.org.uk

Now you have found us. I know that you'll benefit by being able to share with others, join in conversations, and ask any particular questions you may like to, or just to let off a bit of steam. You will always find understanding here from members that want to help.

 

[jay6]

Mine has vascular dementia too. I think the bad temper and abuse is harder to cope with than the actual caring, so can understand the struggle. I also have to do it alone as no near family. Although I do sometimes wonder if it would make a difference as the PWD can come across as nice and make you look a liar if you say otherwise.