Our magic bitter sweet moments š„°š„°š„°
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Iām glad Iām not the only one @Grannie G
I have found it an unexpected blessing - there are some lovely residents. Sometimes on a rough day another residentās smile makes my dayā¦I wasnāt sure if it was accepted etiquette at first so I checked with the staff.
I find it sad that the vast majority donāt have regular visitors. And only The Lady Who Paces seems to have her husband who comes to hang out with her like I do mum. Thereās one younger chap whose wife is in every day but she has 2 buses each way so I think her visits limited by practicalities.
Our chap sadly died this evening. His family have been here all day. I stuck my head round the door this am and it was clear they wanted space so I havenāt seen them anymore. Iām thinking I may send a card, but again I donāt know the etiquette š¤·āāļøš¤·āāļøš¤·āāļø
Anyway I am on leave from work now for this week. I want to do some small things for myself š¤š¤š¤ I havenāt got my paints out for monthsā¦.I donāt feel right doing it at home as thereās so much clearing to be done ā¦..Iām wondering about getting it out here at the home when mum is having her āin bedā š¤·āāļøš¤·āāļø And if we get some sunny days hopefully some hikes šāāļø
I have found it an unexpected blessing - there are some lovely residents. Sometimes on a rough day another residentās smile makes my dayā¦I wasnāt sure if it was accepted etiquette at first so I checked with the staff.
I find it sad that the vast majority donāt have regular visitors. And only The Lady Who Paces seems to have her husband who comes to hang out with her like I do mum. Thereās one younger chap whose wife is in every day but she has 2 buses each way so I think her visits limited by practicalities.
Our chap sadly died this evening. His family have been here all day. I stuck my head round the door this am and it was clear they wanted space so I havenāt seen them anymore. Iām thinking I may send a card, but again I donāt know the etiquette š¤·āāļøš¤·āāļøš¤·āāļø
Anyway I am on leave from work now for this week. I want to do some small things for myself š¤š¤š¤ I havenāt got my paints out for monthsā¦.I donāt feel right doing it at home as thereās so much clearing to be done ā¦..Iām wondering about getting it out here at the home when mum is having her āin bedā š¤·āāļøš¤·āāļø And if we get some sunny days hopefully some hikes šāāļø
i tend to do a certain time clearing then can do what i want as a reward. makes me feel less guilty and i get some things done.
I used to take my knitting with me and knit at mums care home. It used to trigger all sorts of memories and conversations with the residents.
I dont think there would be a problems with you taking paints and painting (so long as its not oils and there would be a problem if someone ate them!!)
It may be OK, @Chizz - I do remember a cat who ate a ball of wool - it survived, but did give birth to mittens later.
Im loving this idea too! I hope I'm in the right place to write this. I still get a bit confused! My pwd beautiful soul woke up yesterday and I went in and started to stroke her arm whilst she was still in bed, simply because I felt like it . For about half an hour, since she was clearly enjoying it. Suddenly she sat up a bit, and looked at me with eyes full of love. Mostly now, her eyes are vacant,staring,looking anxious etc. What a joyful moment. Then, to cement the fleeting session, she leant forward and kissed my face!
Hi,
Our start to today was unusual.
I came down, turned on the light in our dining room where my OH is in bed.
"Good morning"
" Yes good morning"
"Have you been awake long? You're usually still asleep when I come in"
"Yes, long. Where have you been?"
" Shall I make breakfast?"
"I don't know if I'll live that long!"
Remarkable - ordinary thinking for more than several minutes; and ordinary words for more than four!
Our start to today was unusual.
I came down, turned on the light in our dining room where my OH is in bed.
"Good morning"
" Yes good morning"
"Have you been awake long? You're usually still asleep when I come in"
"Yes, long. Where have you been?"
" Shall I make breakfast?"
"I don't know if I'll live that long!"
Remarkable - ordinary thinking for more than several minutes; and ordinary words for more than four!
My week of leave is so far proving productive š Iāve started a painting, started brainstorming my skills for a CV, got a good hike in, have succeeded in now clearing out all my kitchen drawers and got the fire stick working on mumās TVā¦..it sounds exhausting but generally chipping away in small bursts is working for me!
Weāve had pancakes at the care home, and today an afternoon tea for Valentineās. Theres a lady on the floor from Northumbriaā¦.sheās got a gorgeous north-east accent ā¦but apparently ate sooooo many cakes at the tea she went straight to sleep at 4pm ā¦.her supper was left in the fridge but am sure she wonāt be touching it š¤£š¤£ I did try to get 2 dates for the teaā¦.the pacer who is sometimes aggressive ( but a sweetie underneath) wasnāt allowed in case he was overstimulated & started throwing things, and my other bet told me he was too sleepy š„± Oh well ā¦next year š¤£š¤£š¤£
Our exciting news is that mum has been upgraded in roomsā¦..well thatās what I tell her š¤š¤ Theyve actually moved her to a room with laminate flooring rather than carpetā¦.because when she is hoisted onto the commode the Niagra falls occur and are not always landing in Connie šš BUT we feel very blessed because this room comes with a mini private garden. I am going to love it in the summerā¦ā¦
It would be Dadās 91st birthday on Fridayā¦.he loved pottering around potting plants so weād love to get some to do if I get organisedā¦.quite what to choose to pot now tho š¤·āāļøš¤·āāļøš¤·āāļø
Weāve had pancakes at the care home, and today an afternoon tea for Valentineās. Theres a lady on the floor from Northumbriaā¦.sheās got a gorgeous north-east accent ā¦but apparently ate sooooo many cakes at the tea she went straight to sleep at 4pm ā¦.her supper was left in the fridge but am sure she wonāt be touching it š¤£š¤£ I did try to get 2 dates for the teaā¦.the pacer who is sometimes aggressive ( but a sweetie underneath) wasnāt allowed in case he was overstimulated & started throwing things, and my other bet told me he was too sleepy š„± Oh well ā¦next year š¤£š¤£š¤£
Our exciting news is that mum has been upgraded in roomsā¦..well thatās what I tell her š¤š¤ Theyve actually moved her to a room with laminate flooring rather than carpetā¦.because when she is hoisted onto the commode the Niagra falls occur and are not always landing in Connie šš BUT we feel very blessed because this room comes with a mini private garden. I am going to love it in the summerā¦ā¦
It would be Dadās 91st birthday on Fridayā¦.he loved pottering around potting plants so weād love to get some to do if I get organisedā¦.quite what to choose to pot now tho š¤·āāļøš¤·āāļøš¤·āāļø
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Lots of gorgeous primroses around at the moment. I think thatās a wonderful way to celebrate his life and memory.
Thanks @Knitandpurl
I needed some decisiveness š„°š„°š„° I went to the garden centre today and bought some trays of primroses we can plant out tomorrow.
Mum has been v tired this week as they alter her meds so she might be watching or sleeping but I will enjoy itā¦and indeed felt a bit like Dad as he always loved the trip to the garden centre!
funny moment of the day was when one of the carers told me to keep an eye out for a stray padā¦the male wanderer had been washed and dressed with a pad this am ā¦.
but come lunchtime it was missing ššš±š± Quite where he has tucked it we await to find outā¦ā¦.
I needed some decisiveness š„°š„°š„° I went to the garden centre today and bought some trays of primroses we can plant out tomorrow.
Mum has been v tired this week as they alter her meds so she might be watching or sleeping but I will enjoy itā¦and indeed felt a bit like Dad as he always loved the trip to the garden centre!
funny moment of the day was when one of the carers told me to keep an eye out for a stray padā¦the male wanderer had been washed and dressed with a pad this am ā¦.
but come lunchtime it was missing ššš±š± Quite where he has tucked it we await to find outā¦ā¦.
Re pad can sometimes be a bit like that in our house, but usually on bathroom or bedroom floor. Made me smile - amazing the things we find to smile about. Your Mum will enjoy watching you plant up the primroses. (To be honest my Mum was always quite keen on watching other people work-she liked to organise)š
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