My husband of 54years is also in a nursing home, which is closed "until further notice". He suffers with Parkinsons and Lewy Body Dementia (advanced stages). I visited every day until hospitalised myself at the beginning of the year and was just getting back to a new normal when Covid 19 kicked in.
Although the nursing home were speaking of setting up Skype on certain days, this hasn't happened. My husband would not be able to understand, hear or respond. He us unlikely to even recognise me or our children due not only to the dementia but because he is 'registered blind' with only partial vision in one eye.
I feel at my wit's end.
Long story short..... Trust was eroded badly at this nursing home which resulted in one member of staff being dismissed and another severely reprimanded. We have had extreme problems with one senior nurse there. I won't embellish, but you get my drift... I have had to pick up regarding cleanliness, hygiene, hydration and nourishment to the point where I felt my husband was at risk.
After meetings with management problems have been addressed but nevertheless the worries remain. Trust, once or more broken, is not easily repaired.
Being unable to see my husband for 3 months, I fear that we may never see each other again. By not attempting to suggest some way in which I might be able to be with him or at least to help him, I feel that I'm letting this man I love with all my heart, letting him down very badly.
Please.... what are other people doing in a similar situation?