You need to concentrate on you - you have given everything you have to your mom and unfortunately you now need to put yourself first. Empathy was one of the first things I noticed vanished with my mom and looking back it went way before she got a diagnosis - once she had a diagnosis it was as if Pandora's box had been opened.
My situation is a little different but when crisis point came for my mom I tried my best to muddle through but realised after just seven days of sleeping on her sofa at night then returning to my own home and family with her during the day that it was her or me and I chose me. It was one of the hardest decisions I have ever made and two years later I wish I could have done something different and still do but I know that at the time I made the right one.
Contact SS or even Mental Health tell them she is a vulnerable adult and that you can no longer take responsibility for her safety. I was 'lucky' (if you can call it that) as I was able to organise respite care when Mental Health kept promising to help and did basically nothing they just left me to it for over a week. In fact they called up two hours after I had left her in respite to tell me they were finally coming out to see her with a plan - that plan had been promised two days before Christmas when she was found on the corner of her road at 2am by police.
My situation is a little different but when crisis point came for my mom I tried my best to muddle through but realised after just seven days of sleeping on her sofa at night then returning to my own home and family with her during the day that it was her or me and I chose me. It was one of the hardest decisions I have ever made and two years later I wish I could have done something different and still do but I know that at the time I made the right one.
Contact SS or even Mental Health tell them she is a vulnerable adult and that you can no longer take responsibility for her safety. I was 'lucky' (if you can call it that) as I was able to organise respite care when Mental Health kept promising to help and did basically nothing they just left me to it for over a week. In fact they called up two hours after I had left her in respite to tell me they were finally coming out to see her with a plan - that plan had been promised two days before Christmas when she was found on the corner of her road at 2am by police.