new to all this, mums dementia, using a laptop, finding this wonderful site. so hope I get all the technical stuff right. my mum moved in with me 5 months ago. much of what I read on this site I have experienced. needless to say I am so tired. mum has obssessions and two of these are the most annoying and upsetting: along with my mum came her little dog, not a problem in itself, but mum and the dog seem to be one she sets a place for it at the table, continually giving it her food, plus filling up its own bowl with normal dog food, all such a waste. can't get her to settle in bed at night without the dog but the dog seems quite happy to share the cats basket! second obsession is with my brother, she can't bear to be away from him and wants me to call him all the time, I mean almost every minute day or night. I have put a disconnected phone at side of her bed and she now leaves 'air' messages for him through the night, but daytime she's contrieving excuses to call him. my siblings live 100 miles away. the decision to move her in with me was because they are already tied up looking after inlaws. realise there are no answers to all this, just wanted to get it off my chest. as I type this, mum is trying to get the dog to go to bed with her, it won't go, quite happy in sitting room with cat. think mum's is getting jealous of cat/dog relationship! so here goes, going to try and post this