1. Expert Q&A: Benefits - Weds 23 October, 3-4pm

    Our next expert Q&A will be on the topic of benefits. It will be hosted by Lauren from our Knowledge Services team. She'll be answering your questions on Wednesday 23 October between 3-4pm.

    You can either post your question >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll be happy to ask them on your behalf.

  1. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    For the last few days hubby keeps telling me there is a man in the house wearing my clothes, he is very upset about it. This morning l heard him talking to someone, he was looking in the mirror talking to himself, so this is the man wearing his clothes, he didn't want to go out today, which is very unsual, he said when l get home all my clothes will be gone, how do l deal with it. When l tell him the person in the mirror is him he doesn't believe me!!!!
     
  2. LYN T

    LYN T Registered User

    Aug 30, 2012
    6,968
    Brixham Devon
    Oh Pam! how distressing for both of you. This actually happened to Pete. I took all the mirrors down. You could try distraction-leading him away from the mirror-suggesting a cup of tea, or watching a DVD.

    So sorry this has happened

    Love,

    Lyn T XX
     
  3. chick1962

    chick1962 Registered User

    Apr 3, 2014
    11,280
    Female
    near Folkestone
    Oh Pam , maybe tell the man to leave loudly and then tell OH he is gone?! I wish I could be of more assistance but can't think of anything else apart from maybe covering the mirrors or take them down . (((( hugs ))))) xx


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  4. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Thank you Lyn and chick, we do have very large mirrors which l have thought about taking down, do you think he will miss them? He has always loved these Mirrors, they are family heirlooms very ornate. He is now shuting all the doors to stop this man getting into our bedroom, luckily we have only a very small mirror in our bedroom can only see your face. Just spoke to my Granddaughter she works with Alzheimers patients, she said they do not recognise their own face, didn't know that as this newhase has just started, thank you for your help
     
  5. Tears Falling

    Tears Falling Registered User

    Jul 8, 2013
    637
    My grandmother in law didn't like the lady in the mirror ( her own reflection) as she never spoke back when she talked to her. She became very distressed about the situation. Initially material was placed on top of them and then they were taken down. Eased the upset considerably once they were removed.
     
  6. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Thank you tears falling l am going to cover them up with old table cloths l don't use anymore see what happens,
     
  7. Kjn

    Kjn Registered User

    Jul 27, 2013
    5,835
    Aw Pam , as has been said try removing ..moving them. .

    Not sure he will miss them , could you replace with pictures instead .
     
  8. Jessbow

    Jessbow Registered User

    put some windowlene on them for a day or two.
    (You can always claim to have forgotten to clean it off .....)
     
  9. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,519
    Ireland
    Was going to suggest something like Jessbow - or just cover the glass with something like plain white paper, or pretty coloured paper or something. It would the easiest solution, so the one to try first.

    PS. And for the "all my clothes will be gone" - could you pack a small few things in a hold-all and take them with you when you go out, for reassurance?
     
  10. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Thank you for all your advice, it will be interesting to see what happens, l will try windowlene see what happens, they are very large mirrors l will need l bottle for each mirror, will let you know how we get on ☺
     
  11. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    I have enjoyed seeing photo's of you all, this is us a year ago, the last holiday we had in Madeira.
     

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  12. chick1962

    chick1962 Registered User

    Apr 3, 2014
    11,280
    Female
    near Folkestone
    Such a wonderful Photo ❤️ and dressed up , very swish :) look at you two beautiful ppl :) xxxx


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  13. Kjn

    Kjn Registered User

    Jul 27, 2013
    5,835
    What a lovely pic Pamann
     
  14. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Thank you Heike we have both aged so much now Mr. Alzheimers takes its toll, l try to just get on with it, l do still play bowls, hubby comes with me l enjoy the social side with lovely people, l am very lucky to still be able to do that, hope you have a good day
     
  15. chick1962

    chick1962 Registered User

    Apr 3, 2014
    11,280
    Female
    near Folkestone
    It's difficult and so hard ! Glad you can still enjoy bowls :) here's one of me and daughter in laws at our wedding 3 years ago and John with my sons . A lot has changed since then ImageUploadedByTalking Point1432624530.205790.jpg ImageUploadedByTalking Point1432624552.841630.jpg


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  16. WIFE

    WIFE Registered User

    May 23, 2014
    857
    WEST SUSSEX
    Splendid photo, Pamann - as you say Alz creeps insidiously up on sufferer and carer alike. As to mirrors - It took me a while to realise that there were no mirrors on the walls of my husband's NH - except for the mirrored medicine cupboard in the en suite and that was at a height that even I found it difficult to see into. When I asked why I was given the same answer as you have highlighted in your thread - inability to realise that the person in the mirror is the person with dementia - themselves. I would just try covering them up with something as you and others suggest - hopefully another phase that will slip away. thinking of you WIFE
     
  17. chick1962

    chick1962 Registered User

    Apr 3, 2014
    11,280
    Female
    near Folkestone
    Mind had me hair straightened on pic it's very curly normally ;) John and I have been together 7 years but only married 3 years ago xxx


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  18. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    They are beautiful photo's 3 very pretty girls, little Mia just in the photo she is so cute ☺
     
  19. chick1962

    chick1962 Registered User

    Apr 3, 2014
    11,280
    Female
    near Folkestone
    Yeah bless her she was only 2 and as John got a bit emotional she cried out oh no pop pops sad :D xx


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  20. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Thank you wife, l did tell hubby yesterday that is your twin brother, he said l haven't got a brother!!! he's not that silly, l do find it amazing that he doesn't recognise himself.
     

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