If the EMI nursing facility is a good one then that should prove beneficial because dementia is a speciality and however caring things can be in a Care Home, being capable of recognizing certain aspects of advanced dementia is very important. Those Homes which hold the banner of excellence are to be sought out if at all possible. See what is what when you visit the new Home.I've just had a call from mams nursing home and they are looking at moving her to a emi nursing home . Not as shocked as I could of been but only because of reading stuff on this forum. I am wondering what happens or where does she go if the emi home isnt suitable either. What would the next step be. I know I maybe jumping the gun but cant help wondering.
Cant believe how things have escalated with her .
The best thing is to say - yes, I know, Im organising it.If she then wants to know when, say - a couple of days, very soon. If she demands to go home NOW, then come up with some reason that she would understand and accept - your car has broken down, its too cold or wet, her homes got a burst pipe that needs repairing, the doctors wont let you because of the virus, whatever makes sense to her. Dont try and explain the real reasons because she wont accept them.I've read when asked I want to go home to try and distract them with something else or go along with it. I'm stuggleing because it's hard to do when your visiting through an open window.
whats emiEMI places are usually extremely good at managing challenging dementia behaviour. Id be surprised if they couldnt cope
Yes, these are the real reasons why she cannot go home, but she truly cannot remember anything about this time - its as if it never existed to her - so in her mind she can do everything she used to and will never accept that things have changed. Dont bother trying to tell her about these reasons, it wont work and will probably just make her more annoyed.She also thinks she can look after herself and has forgotten the nurses that use to come in 3 times a day. I've even tried to remind her of certain nurses that she liked alot and she has no recollection of them. I dont force it but cant believe she remembers nothing.
thankyouElderly Mentally Infirm, a specialised nursing home that can look after more personal . My mam is quite vocal and needs attention alot of the time and can be disruptive to other residents
I am so sorry to read about your loss!Got call from mams nursing home last night shes very poorly seems to have chest infection. With her most of the night.
But sadly passed away this morning.
Mixed feelings I'm sad because I wont see her again but back of mind is saying thank god shes not suffering anymore.
Thank you everyone for your advice and support xx
I'm so sorry to hear this. Take good care xGot call from mams nursing home last night shes very poorly seems to have chest infection. With her most of the night.
But sadly passed away this morning.
Mixed feelings I'm sad because I wont see her again but back of mind is saying thank god shes not suffering anymore.
Thank you everyone for your advice and support xx