Hi everyone, it's my first post and I am a bit nervous! But I've had an issue for over a year and really want some advice, it's constantly on my mind. I apologise if I need to post this in a different thread but if it needs to be somewhere else please point me in the right direction.
Ok so my dad has dementia and been in his current care facility for over a year. My mum and i fell out almost two years ago and we haven't been in touch but I still sent my dad cards and presents and wrote letters which I assumed the staff would give and read to him. Oh! I live overseas. Anyway, I called last year and was suddently told my mum had instructed them not to give him anything from me, answer calls and give me any information on him, and not allow me to visit when i am in the country. She is next of kin and has power of attorney but I do too. I was devestated and emailed her asking to reconsider and bear in mind what my dad would want if he was his old self, but she didnt even reply. So I started looking in to how legal her instructions were , when my husband died and i have been trying to deal with the grief of this too. But I am thinking about my dad all the time at the moment and really don't want to never see him again (he is 78 ) because my mother is being so awful. I would like to know what my rights are in this situation. My dad and i always got on and he was perfectly calm and happy when i would visit him so it is not that he would be upset if i visited. it is malice on my mothers part.
Sorry for the long post... please help.
Ok so my dad has dementia and been in his current care facility for over a year. My mum and i fell out almost two years ago and we haven't been in touch but I still sent my dad cards and presents and wrote letters which I assumed the staff would give and read to him. Oh! I live overseas. Anyway, I called last year and was suddently told my mum had instructed them not to give him anything from me, answer calls and give me any information on him, and not allow me to visit when i am in the country. She is next of kin and has power of attorney but I do too. I was devestated and emailed her asking to reconsider and bear in mind what my dad would want if he was his old self, but she didnt even reply. So I started looking in to how legal her instructions were , when my husband died and i have been trying to deal with the grief of this too. But I am thinking about my dad all the time at the moment and really don't want to never see him again (he is 78 ) because my mother is being so awful. I would like to know what my rights are in this situation. My dad and i always got on and he was perfectly calm and happy when i would visit him so it is not that he would be upset if i visited. it is malice on my mothers part.
Sorry for the long post... please help.