With all the reports of outbreaks/deaths in Care Homes on the news, I am feeling the urge to bring OH Home to self isolate just the two of us. Part of me (the brain) knows this is not sensible. Part of me (the heart) feels that if we are to succumb, we should do it together.
Your hearts may say you want to bring your loved ones home but what will happen to them if you catch the virus and are no longer able to look after them? They will have lost their place in care homes in which they are currently settled and happy. Even moving them home could cause unthought of problems to them and to you. They are in residential care for a damn good reason, including their need for 24 hour care. How do you think you can carry this out without support from other people and services, all of whom are overstretched to the limit in the current circumstances?
I feel the same as Wifenotcarer, I've felt like that way before the virus as we were happy to bring mum home from the outset of her accident (she doesn't have Alz) and care for her ourselves as that what she would have wanted.
My issue isn't with the nursing staff and carers of the home but with the GP that covers it and the CQC. It's a long story but the gist of it is that the GPs are inept and mum was only put in there because the CQC said she needed 24hr care. Her state hasn't changed but the CQC said she's improved. I think that was only said because they wanted to remove their funding but should also mean she doesn't need to be there. We're waiting on clarification.
That said, there's no way I could or would move her right now, especially in the midst of lockdown, and support the home in the locking down if it means greater protection for her. It's just that the restriction of seeing them stirs the heart and mind even more so at these times.
Sadly that’s what has happened to me, my mum was at end of life and very poorly, but there was no exception, the home would not allow me to see her. Mum passed away 3 days ago. It is just surreal and I can’t get my head around she gone. I had not seen her for almost 3 weeks and I have to wait until Tuesday when the Chapel of rest reopens after the holidays. I really hope this doesn’t happen to you.
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss
@bdmid I lost my dad this year but was able to have his funeral in early March before any restrictions. That was sad enough but to be in your position now, I cannot imagine what you're feeling now. All the best to you x