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Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by Rageddy Anne, Apr 27, 2016.

  1. Ann Mac

    Ann Mac Registered User

    Oct 17, 2013
    Oh Anne, I am so sorry to read such sad news. Lost for words, almost, wanting to express relief that everything was peaceful and you were able to have that last visit, gladness that your family is there for you, and concern that somehow, at such a sad time, you are able to look after yourself after your surgery.

    Sending you massive hugs and all my sympathy hun xxxxxx
  2. margherita

    margherita Registered User

    May 30, 2017
    Italy, Milan and Acqui Terme
    How are you?
    Silly question , I know, which I could not help asking.
    You are in my thoughts.
  3. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    Oh Anne I am so sorry. My thoughts are with xx
  4. HillyBilly

    HillyBilly Registered User

    Dec 21, 2015
    Oh I am so very sorry to read of Rob's passing. Sincere condolences to you all and a huge hug x
  5. 2jays

    2jays Registered User

    Jun 4, 2010
    West Midlands
    Thinking of you. Buckets of squishy hugs xxxx
  6. Sam Luvit

    Sam Luvit Registered User

    Oct 19, 2016
    East Sussex
    I'm so sorry to hear your news, but thankful you had that kiss & felt his peace. Wishing you comfort & strength at this difficult time
  7. chick1962

    chick1962 Registered User

    Apr 3, 2014
    near Folkestone
    Such sad news Sheila , so sorry to read this . Glad your family are around you and you were able to give Rob that last kiss. Thinking of you xxxxxx
  8. Earthgirl72

    Earthgirl72 Registered User

    Feb 2, 2016
    So very sorry to read your sad news. Sending love and hugs your way xx
  9. Slugsta

    Slugsta Registered User

    I am so sorry that Rob has passed, please accept my sincere condolences. I am glad that you were able to have that last visit, and that you knew he was finally at peace.

    No-one could have given Rob more love and care than you did, working tirelessly to ensure he always had the best possible care.

    Please take things very easy, it would be all-too easy to ignore your own health problems at such a difficult time. Please try to give yourself the same loving care that you gave Rob (((hugs)))
  10. Dazmum

    Dazmum Registered User

    I'm so sorry to hear about Rob, but glad that his passing was peaceful and that you were able to see him. Please take care of yourself, I'm thinking of you and your family xxx
  11. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    South coast
    I was so shocked to read this. Im so sorry
  12. Loopiloo

    Loopiloo Registered User

    May 10, 2010
    I do feel for you, what a difficult time, but wonderful to have your family there with you. Very sad to read of Rob dying and I send sincere sympathy. Precious having that last time with him and that it was peaceful. His suffering with this destructive dementia is over now.

    Do take care of yourself now during your recovery and be easy on yourself. Wishing you continued strength in the days ahead and beyond.

    Loo xx
  13. rosy18

    rosy18 Registered User

    Jul 23, 2016
    My sincere condolences to you and your family Raggedy Annes. So pleased you were there to give him that kiss and to know he was at peace.
    Please try to take care of yourself that's what Rob would want. I wish you a speedy recovery from your op and the strength along with the love and support from your family for the future.
    Sending warm ((hugs))xx
  14. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    I haven't been on TP as much as usual Anne, due to computer problems and have only just found your sad news. I'm so sorry and send sincere condolences. I'm relieved to find after all his trauma, Rob was allowed a peaceful passing.

    Please take care of yourself now.
  15. Amy in the US

    Amy in the US Registered User

    Feb 28, 2015
    RA, there's no need to reply, but I wanted you to know we are all thinking of you.
  16. Rageddy Anne

    Rageddy Anne Registered User

    Feb 21, 2013
    It's been such a long journey. I think Dementia was probably lurking many years back, when unlikely worries troubled Rob, and he sometimes behaved in ways that were out of character.
    He was probably coping well when he needed to rehearse before a party the names of people we would see there.
    He would worry at airports, and fret about things like our house insurance, things that he had always taken in his stride.
    It became a family joke when he started to check three times that we had locked the house before an outing,
    He developed ritual worries about his house keys, wallet, car keys, his glasses and his watch. We joked about it.
    Later his driving began to be erratic, and he would become irritated by other drivers' actions, and blame them for his own misjudgements..
    He had always been impatient, but short temper crept in, and that wasn't nice.
    He began to be agitated in all sorts of situations, and worried.
    And then he began the WANTING TO GO HOME phase, and dementia was evident.
    He was waking at night, not understanding where he was, or what he was doing.
    He began with difficulties in dressing himself, needing his clothes to be laid out in readiness.
    Problems crept in with him needing the toilet urgently, and leaving it too late.And that led to distress and embarrassment.
    We were in the thick of dementia, the HYPERACTIVE TODDLER phase, perhaps the hardest for his family to cope with.
    That's when this thread was born, so if you've read it, you will know the rest.


    We've been through all the dramas and pressures and heartache as well as discovering the kindness and compassion that someone living with a person with dementia will encounter. This feels a bit like an. Ending, but no doubt I'll be back,chattering away, very soon...sending hugs , gratitude and love to everyone who has been involved...
  17. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    " but no doubt I'll be back,chattering away, very soon"

    I sincerely hope so. xx
  18. RedLou

    RedLou Registered User

    Jul 30, 2014
    Anne - you may find, as I have, that it's nice to pop back in to 'chat' to the people to whom you have become close. It sounds ridiculous to say that, in a way, as we are all meeting virtually, but often a warm heart and kind eyes are just as visible on the Interweb as they are in a face to face meeting. Also, there have been times I have needed to avoid here, because the stories take me back and fill me with anxiety and upset still. Take care of yourself and if I do 'see' you on here, it will be a pleasure.
  19. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    Anne, I'm so sorry, I've only just caught up. My sincere condolences to you and all you u family. I do hope you I'll be visiting here again, it will be do nice to see you.
    Now concentrate on getting well yourself!
  20. nannylondon

    nannylondon Registered User

    Apr 7, 2014
    Sheila, I felt like you when Chris died, but I still pop on to see how everyone is getting on like Red Lou sometimes it is too painful but I feel like I have made some real friends on here and will always be grateful for all the support.
    Now though you have got to look after yourself big hug. Xx

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