Dear Jackson, I feel so sorry for your siblings, You said your mum would do this for you if the shoes was on the other foot. Then it sounds to me that your mum has given you the greatest of all gifts, the gift of caring, the gift of empathy, as well as the gift of love. It is sad for your siblings that they did not get these gifts as they were to self involved to receive them.
I too have received these gifts and instead of anger at my family at my sisters funeral who passed on the 14th of march after a terminal illness which even her own children had no time for her.
I took the fact that the time we spent together whilst I looked after her as a precious time that we shared and no-one can take that away, it is a time no-one else had.
Now I am caring for my mom and even though she drives me insane, I know it's my siblings loss at not sharing the time we have left. The giggles when we do lunch. I hate the times when she is screaming or crying or confused, but I bear them.
I to will be with her till the end, I don't believe it a chore but a human right to be with people whom truly love you. I hope I have one tenth of your compassion.
I am sending you both a loving hug, and I am sending your mum a gentle kiss on her forehead from everyone that has ever been on TP.
hi jennifer eccles,thanku for your message.
My siblings would not know where to begin to give,as far as i have witnessed over the years they are so wrapped up in themselves they do not have the slightest notion where to begin when it comes to giving,as all they know is to keep taking,and as long as they are allright they r not bothered about anyone else in this world.
they have been like that with that attitude for well over 20years.and i dont suppose they will ever change,an example is i phoned my eldest brother up a couple of weeks ago and asked him if he knew about my mam,he said yes he knew,i asked him if he was planning on coming to visit my mam whilst she was in hospital?the answer i was given was "i'm busy"and that was that.
i phoned my younger brother up other day and his wife answered i asked to speak to my brother, was told he was at work,i asked if they knew about mams condition and i was told "yes"then they put the phone down on me.its a total disgrace and unforgiveable.
i know what you mean though about this special time i am spending with my mam.
i have allways looked after my mam,even when i was 12 years old my mam had an operation and my dad worked away,so i slept in my mams bed with her and nursed her to good health again.my mam had a bad back about 30 years ago she was in hospital on traction,when she came out of hospital she was worse than before she went into hospital,she was totally crippled,i put her back right for her,i went to her house everyday and helped her sit up in bed wash her etc.and massaged her back with warm olive oil every day,it took nearly a month but eventually she was as right as rain.
i have allways put other people before myself and left myself to the back of the queue,but my so called family have allways put themselves first and foremost above everybody,they are selfish,greedy,uncaring and havent the slightest understanding about sharing anything in life.
i'm glad my mams forgotten them with the dementia,she doesnt deserve to go through any more pain caused by any of them.
i admire u for what u did for your sister,very brave and courageous of u,and as u sed ur family missed out "big time"through their own doing.
take care and i'm sure u will look after ur mum just as gud as u looked after ur sister.maureen