hi to all of you brave carers out there.i havent been on site for quite a while,due to massive problems in my mams care health issues etc.
my mam was admitted to hospital just over a month ago from carehome with renal failure,if i had'nt of called the doctor once again my mam would have died on that day,one month ago.
the carehome was closed once again to public rota virus,i couldnt even see my mam on mothers day,due to closure of home to the public.
i recieved a call from carehome into the second week of the carehome being closed to inform me that mam had a fall,i was informed by carer that mam was o.k. a couple of hours later i got another call mam had another fall,i told carer i am coming to home to see mam,wether they closed to public or not.
i arrived with clear soup in flask for mam which she ate hesitantly,but i managed to feed her approx 5 dessertspoonsful,which i think she enjoyed.i called doctor and doc diagnosed mam with severe dehydration and low blood pressure,apparently mam did not have rota virus symptoms.
mam was admitted to hospital early hours april 10th with renal failure,after a long haul mam was eventually back up on her feet again,mam was supposed to be discharged 2 weeks ago,but she had a fall in hospital and suffered a stroke and clot on the brain,since that time monday 2nd may,mam has not responded,has not opened her eyes or spoken apart from one word on tuesday 3rd may,she spoke my name "Maureen"whilst i was combing her hair.
I was elated when mam spoke my name i thought she was on road to recovery,but sadly realised later that mam was not on the road to recovery.
doctor at hospital asked me where mam would like to be when she dies,he asked me would mam rather be at home than in hospital.
I have brought my mam home to my house on tuesday 10th may,and am now caring for my mam with my partner john.
mam has still not responded,mam does however,seem to be very comfortable at my home and seems to be sleeping very very peacefully.
i was advised by doctor at hospital that mam would not last long,as the fluids have been stopped and all the administration of drugs in hospital.however,i have been given a pack of 4 key drugs which may be administered if mam seems to be suffering in pain at any time.
the doctor has informed us of the Liverpool pathway care of dying.
I have requested that the reverand of st.mary's church visits us today to see mam.
the phrase "The eyes are the windows of the soul"is such a true saying,i have always known this phrase,but,never really thought about it indepth until 2nd May which is the time that mam closed her eyes after stroke and fall in hospital.
myself and my partner are still encouraging and trying to stimulate mam by singing her favourite songs, playing mams favourite music,and hopefully mam can also hear our parakeet chirping away in the background.
We are sleeping beside mams bed on camp beds,as we wish to re-assure mam that we are there by her side at all times.
When the time comes which we think may be soon,we have been instructed to call mcmillan nurse and support team to administer these 4 key drugs to mam.
we are trying very hard to stay strong for mam,but in the meantime we still have a family feud going on in the background,this so called family are the sons and daughters whom disowned mam nearly 4 years ago,due to the dementia.
At that time myself and my partner took mam in to our own home to help mam as the so called family whom had disowned mam had also abandoned mam and threatened that they were going to get mam locked up and certified and throw the key away.
I am so angry to think that this so called family whom have never bothered all this time about mam are now all crawling out of the woodwork.
At least i know that myself and my partner have done our very very best for mam within the last 4 years and i know mam appreciates this and i think thats why mam said my name,and has not spoken since or opened her eyes.
Sadness grows in our home minute by minute,but we know that mam is happy here in our own home with us.
take care all of you and thankyou for all your support.
maureen and john
my mam was admitted to hospital just over a month ago from carehome with renal failure,if i had'nt of called the doctor once again my mam would have died on that day,one month ago.
the carehome was closed once again to public rota virus,i couldnt even see my mam on mothers day,due to closure of home to the public.
i recieved a call from carehome into the second week of the carehome being closed to inform me that mam had a fall,i was informed by carer that mam was o.k. a couple of hours later i got another call mam had another fall,i told carer i am coming to home to see mam,wether they closed to public or not.
i arrived with clear soup in flask for mam which she ate hesitantly,but i managed to feed her approx 5 dessertspoonsful,which i think she enjoyed.i called doctor and doc diagnosed mam with severe dehydration and low blood pressure,apparently mam did not have rota virus symptoms.
mam was admitted to hospital early hours april 10th with renal failure,after a long haul mam was eventually back up on her feet again,mam was supposed to be discharged 2 weeks ago,but she had a fall in hospital and suffered a stroke and clot on the brain,since that time monday 2nd may,mam has not responded,has not opened her eyes or spoken apart from one word on tuesday 3rd may,she spoke my name "Maureen"whilst i was combing her hair.
I was elated when mam spoke my name i thought she was on road to recovery,but sadly realised later that mam was not on the road to recovery.
doctor at hospital asked me where mam would like to be when she dies,he asked me would mam rather be at home than in hospital.
I have brought my mam home to my house on tuesday 10th may,and am now caring for my mam with my partner john.
mam has still not responded,mam does however,seem to be very comfortable at my home and seems to be sleeping very very peacefully.
i was advised by doctor at hospital that mam would not last long,as the fluids have been stopped and all the administration of drugs in hospital.however,i have been given a pack of 4 key drugs which may be administered if mam seems to be suffering in pain at any time.
the doctor has informed us of the Liverpool pathway care of dying.
I have requested that the reverand of st.mary's church visits us today to see mam.
the phrase "The eyes are the windows of the soul"is such a true saying,i have always known this phrase,but,never really thought about it indepth until 2nd May which is the time that mam closed her eyes after stroke and fall in hospital.
myself and my partner are still encouraging and trying to stimulate mam by singing her favourite songs, playing mams favourite music,and hopefully mam can also hear our parakeet chirping away in the background.
We are sleeping beside mams bed on camp beds,as we wish to re-assure mam that we are there by her side at all times.
When the time comes which we think may be soon,we have been instructed to call mcmillan nurse and support team to administer these 4 key drugs to mam.
we are trying very hard to stay strong for mam,but in the meantime we still have a family feud going on in the background,this so called family are the sons and daughters whom disowned mam nearly 4 years ago,due to the dementia.
At that time myself and my partner took mam in to our own home to help mam as the so called family whom had disowned mam had also abandoned mam and threatened that they were going to get mam locked up and certified and throw the key away.
I am so angry to think that this so called family whom have never bothered all this time about mam are now all crawling out of the woodwork.
At least i know that myself and my partner have done our very very best for mam within the last 4 years and i know mam appreciates this and i think thats why mam said my name,and has not spoken since or opened her eyes.
Sadness grows in our home minute by minute,but we know that mam is happy here in our own home with us.
take care all of you and thankyou for all your support.
maureen and john