Actually Lynne you have summarised it well:
When I was in a wheelchair for six weeks, early on in Lionel's illness, he could not seem to do / get anything right. Why? because I had put him under stress by asking him to do it, and he just could not cope.
When I was back to normal and prompting him along he was so much better.
I am glad you said it - makes so much sense.
And like fetching a glass of water quoted earlier, he can do it when it's his idea because he doesn't have to do the additional step of
processing & remembering your request for him to do it, or worry about forgetting or 'getting wrong' some part of your request?
When I was in a wheelchair for six weeks, early on in Lionel's illness, he could not seem to do / get anything right. Why? because I had put him under stress by asking him to do it, and he just could not cope.
When I was back to normal and prompting him along he was so much better.
I am glad you said it - makes so much sense.