It will have been a year this Thursday

Soobee

Registered User
Aug 22, 2009
2,734
South
I can't quite believe it is almost a year since my mum died.

I still feel guilty though I know I have nothing to really feel guilty about because I did many things to try to make her life more comfortable. I occasionally remember how awful she was before she had dementia - I'd had to put that to one side whilst she was alive or I would not have been able to help her.

I feel very fortunate that she became quite placid and didn't fight all of the changes that were necessary. We know it would have been a completely different story if she had remained the feisty, stubborn woman of old.

I often think and talk about her but I still miss dad so much more. Any grief I have for mum seems to take me back to dad's passing, which some of you know hit me really hard. I guess it's quite natural to feel like that but it makes me feel bad that I don't feel so strongly about her.

Nearly all of my friends still have both parents alive and well and although I am glad they do, I can't help wishing mine were still here too!
 

creativesarah

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Apr 22, 2010
9,478
East Hunsbury Northamptonshire
I fully empathise Sue my friends I live with have elderly parents so it does make the loss seem harder sometimes esp as their parents are in their 90's and my mum died at 51

I can hardly believe its a year already

lots of support

Sarah
 

Saffie

Registered User
Mar 26, 2011
22,506
Near Southampton
First anniversaries are the hardest so they say.
I think any anniversary is hard but more so is any time when a reminder just hits you.
That year has gone quickly Sue. Time does fly. xxx
 

2jays

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Jun 4, 2010
11,598
West Midlands
A year. Gosh sue your feelings must be all over the place

Huge hugs xxxxxx OXO HIGS xx


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