It will have been a year this Thursday

Discussion in 'After dementia — dealing with loss' started by Soobee, Jan 20, 2015.

  1. Soobee

    Soobee Registered User

    Aug 22, 2009
    2,734
    South
    I can't quite believe it is almost a year since my mum died.

    I still feel guilty though I know I have nothing to really feel guilty about because I did many things to try to make her life more comfortable. I occasionally remember how awful she was before she had dementia - I'd had to put that to one side whilst she was alive or I would not have been able to help her.

    I feel very fortunate that she became quite placid and didn't fight all of the changes that were necessary. We know it would have been a completely different story if she had remained the feisty, stubborn woman of old.

    I often think and talk about her but I still miss dad so much more. Any grief I have for mum seems to take me back to dad's passing, which some of you know hit me really hard. I guess it's quite natural to feel like that but it makes me feel bad that I don't feel so strongly about her.

    Nearly all of my friends still have both parents alive and well and although I am glad they do, I can't help wishing mine were still here too!
     
  2. creativesarah

    creativesarah Registered User

    I fully empathise Sue my friends I live with have elderly parents so it does make the loss seem harder sometimes esp as their parents are in their 90's and my mum died at 51

    I can hardly believe its a year already

    lots of support

    Sarah
     
  3. Saffie

    Saffie Registered User

    Mar 26, 2011
    22,491
    Female
    Near Southampton
    First anniversaries are the hardest so they say.
    I think any anniversary is hard but more so is any time when a reminder just hits you.
    That year has gone quickly Sue. Time does fly. xxx
     
  4. 2jays

    2jays Registered User

    Jun 4, 2010
    11,489
    West Midlands
    A year. Gosh sue your feelings must be all over the place

    Huge hugs xxxxxx OXO HIGS xx


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  5. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    58,765
    Female
    Dundee
    The years pass so quickly Sue. Thinking of you.
     

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