Hi Rose of York You have my sympathy. There's a "shall we shan't we" dilemma with the POA. And bizarrely, (or even correctly when you think about it logically) the social services do have to accept the patient's wishes when it comes to care. Otherwise they have to invoke the Mental Health Act, which I understand is not a Good Thing at all. Our Mum is 83 and in poor health (she has VAD, as a result of atrial fibrilation so she is at risk from stroke). However, she really really really really thinks that she is capable of travelling to Italy, going on a cruise, getting on a train to travel to the Lake District, being Prime Minister. OK, I lied about that last bit. How old is your Mum, R O York?