Not proud of this - not proud at all... This week's obsession is "paperwork". This is how it goes: Phone rings: Me: Hello? Mum: It's Mum, dear. (no hello, how or you etc). I want my paperwork back Me: What paperwork, Mum? (this is the fifth time this week we've had this conversation) Mum: The gas paperwork. The boiler's not working and I need to get the Man from the Gas (who?) to fix it Me: Mum, the boiler works fine. We've had this conversation. I can come over tomorrow and show you how to use the timer - it's easy. There's nothing wrong with it, though. Mum: (not listening) I want my paperwork. You and R (bro in law) have taken away all my paperwork and I can't find any of it. I want to be in control of my money, I'm perfectly capably of managing it. Me: Mum, R and I kept finding old bills and stuff like that stuffed into cupboards and nothing was being done with them. Also, I found an insurance schedule for your house contents insurance in another cupboard and you hadn't done anything with it. We are helping you with paperwork and money etc etc. Mum: I want my paperwork back Me: Mum, did you just listen to me: I've already explained this Mum: I'm perfectly capable of managing it. I used to file it all away when I had your Dad with me. Me: No, you didn't, Mum. Dad filed it away. Anyhoooo, it goes on like this for some time - and this is the fifth time this week we're having this conversation. Eventually I snapped and lost my temper. I told her that she was no longer capable of managing paperwork as she keeps losing it (this at the top of my voice). She put the phone down on me. I called her back to tell her that putting the phone down on the ONE person who is more than willing to help her with managing her life is rude, ignorant and nasty. Did she think I was an idiot? Mum: Yes, you certainly are an idiot (in a nasty patronising voice - she's good at this) She puts the phone down on me again. Slams it down, more like. Quite frankly, I hate her at the moment. Never the nicest person in the world nor the sharpest tool in the box, dementia has brought out all the qualities that my sisters and brother hate in her. Anyway, rant over. Anyone else feel like this?