oh my goodness Jaff, how hard all this is for you
my understanding is that fast track means that the move will be organised immediately as your dad's situation demands that he have nursing care all day every day
hopefully this will take some of the strain from you - I'm not sure why you would then be asked to help feed him
please do get back to the Dr and have a chat - maybe write down any questions you have beforehand to make sure you get all the answers you need (I do this, as I know there'll be something I forget) - hopefully the nursing home staff will talk things over with you and support you too
is your mum still in hospital? maybe cut down your time visiting
please take some time for yourself, even just a few minutes to sit and relax - I know, that's easy for me to write and feels impossible to do