Hi my name jaff. I am looking after my mum and dad. Mum with the start of dementia and Alzheimer's. Which she is being a handful and would like advice.... I live hour away from mum... she is house bound with lots of medical complaints... we have just lost my brother in January.. went in for a op. And compilation and he died. There is a inquest in May... this shocked. Mum and myself... my brother looked after dad. And I looked after mum.. now I have both.. dad got rushed in hospital on 8 match with sepisis. Dr told me he would not last the night.. dad has got vascular dementia. Which has gone worse.. he's not eating or drinking I go everyday. Morning mum. Afternoon dad. Which now I am tied.. and sad. Now I have mum ring ing me up in the middle of the night. To go and get her. She thinks in a park. A farm. Bus stop. Come and get me she says.. I try and talk her round and say that she is at home. And it's the middle of the night and the carers will be there at eight. Am I doing this right? I have had two phone call tonight. Frightened to go back to sleep... help any one.